I was recently dumped by the star basketball player. I am head cheerleader so I have to see him CONSTANTLY and it's not easy because I miss being his girlfriend and I can't let him think this. Its also not fun at all cheering on the guy who dumped you because he is the only one on the team scoring any points.
My bf dumped me saying that I was a great girlfriend (I did so much for him and always gave him his space) and he always told me while we were going out how "hot" he thinks I am.
I wasn't ready to lose him as a boyfriend. I want him to miss me and see me happy, but that's hard because I don't have that many friends at school. And how do I move on from being dumped by a guy who was one of my best friends?
2007-01-16 11:41:13 · 8 answers · asked by susie q 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is time to stop whimpering... I am getting a headache.
A head cheerleader and you are walking around like a lost puppy dog. What!!!!!!
Girl, get a grip, get your gfs together and have some fun.
Make some new friends, step out of your cheer circle and meet some different people, maybe ones who are not jocks, drama majors..something different that what you have been doing.
You must broaden your horizons.
You are the epitome of friendliness to new people, you have to share your energy and your spirit.
Get creative and think up a way to bring some new people into the forefront at the school.
A contest, a casino night, something, get busy..
There is no time for crying over spilled milk, this is done and you and him are done.
You cheer for him, you be friendly and you show a strong face and believe in yourself like other people do.
He can't help who he is..... You can't change him. You have to stop being everything for guys.
Relax sit back and let them do for you.
I know you are a people pleaser, but save some of your energy for just you and building your inner spirit to be strong.
You can't please everybody all of the time. So stop trying.
You will wear yourself out.
You have it in you to go and find another great person, cause you are great.
Don't discount yourself, you are in demand, so start acting like it.
Rah Rah Rah!!!!!! Now go girl.......
2007-01-16 12:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing, Do not over text her. She will get annoyed and if you keep telling her "TAKE ME BACK I LOVE YOU." Learn here https://tr.im/GDCSv
She will not want you even more. You need to show her that you don't need her and can live your life without her. She still cares about you I am sure. Maybe try "flirting" with other girls around her to make her jealous. I know its bad, but if i saw my ex flirting with someone else it would make me REALLY ANGRY. However, you still need to show her you care about her too. Show her what she's missing and remind her of it. Be confident and don't show your broken heart. Try ignoring her? Girls hate that. You want her to come to you. Once she does this YOU have all the power.
She will realize what you mean to her and she will hopefully come crawling back. (I am in the same situation as you, except I am the girl trying to get my ex back). Try not to be so clingy and give her space. But try to be around so she sees you, but don't talk to her much. Keep convos short and if you txt her, which you shouldn't, then also keep it short and bland. This will be hard to do because you just want to let her in your life again, but you can't. If you show her that you are desperate to get her back, she won't go for it. Make her come to you and REMIND her of all that she is missing out on. Hope this helps. And trust me, I know how you feel. Girls usually come around easier than guys so you should be lucky. ughh wish i could say the same.
2016-07-19 20:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/q3oea
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-27 00:31:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your own fault for getting attached to a b-baller. Most athletes have the emotional depth of pond scum, and you'd know that if you paid any attention to how they treat women.
Then again, if all you had to offer is how "hot" you are, maybe he outgrew you. It could happen.
Either way, look at this as a learning experience. You move on by picking yourself up and moving on.
2007-01-16 11:51:23 · answer #4 · answered by John D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand the breakup do you? I say continue being his friend, be alittle closer to him than the rest of his friends. get him to open up about what it is that realy caused th breakup or at least what his feelings are for you maybe if you undr stnd his feelings for you it will be easyer to understand the breakup.
Im sory you have to go through this I am going thru something close to this and it is very hard to decide what to do
especially on the friends department. his friends used to be my friends then they were our friends and now I feel like I cannot open up to those people because they are still close to him and if I talk to them about my feelings it will be like I am asking them to pick sides and I don't want there to be any sides??(*&^&*( it is all very confusing and makes me feel very alone
well anyway try to keep your chin up and good luck
2007-01-16 11:54:10 · answer #5 · answered by jumpingbea58 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Broken hearts are mended by creating jealousy. When I was in high school, I was dumped by a star of the team. So, I went to his prom with someone much better-looking and made out with him all night in front of my ex. Then, I dated my ex's best friend for two years.
All's fair in love and war. Look your best, and then, get even...and make friends!
2007-01-16 11:47:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't control other people's feelings...if he doesn't miss you it's because he doesn't miss you...but on the other hand...try ignoring him...it works some times.
2007-01-16 11:53:49 · answer #7 · answered by none 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well think this way, his lost. Flirt with other guys around him . he will get jelous. dont sho that you still like him. ask if you can still be friends. pretend to be happy around him while flirting with other guys and he will be like man i cant belive i let her go. she was so cool damn
2007-01-16 11:46:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋