I've Been Raped...Who and How Do I tell?

Question

My boyfriend and I were going to his aunt's new house in the country (he just turned 16 and got his lisence so it was just us) but when we got there, his aunt wasn't there, because we were really late, so she went out, but my boyfriend has a key, so he decided to give me a tour. This house is HUGE and in the middle of freakin no where. When we came to guest room, he asked if i wanted to have sex. I told him no. But he pushed me on the bed, and....raped me.....
He's at least 6'3 about 160 pounds, and Im 5'8 and about 113 pounds. I told him to stop but he didn't. I couldn't fight him.I screamed, but no one was around to hear me. When he was done, he left the room, and I started crying....he drove me home and acted like nothing had ever happened. I'm terrified. He's supposed to love me. This is going to be impossible to prove, because we were going out and no one was there to hear me say no. Its his word against mine.
I dont know how to tell my mom...im so embarassed. What to do?

i knew i shouldn't take a shower..so i didn't. Happened this morning...will not taking a shower help?

Answer 1

I think this is BS.

You expect us to believe that the first thing you did after you were raped was to turn on your computer, log into Yahoo, and then post this question? C'mon.

I don't think you even have a boyfriend. You didn't go to anyone's house anywhere, did you?

What, are you sick? do you have a rape fantasy? You are probably not even a girl.

Answer 2

First of all, I'm so sorry that something so awful has happened to you, you must be going through hell. Well done for asking for help. You are absolutely right not to take a shower even though you might feel like you just want to scrub it all away. What you need to do is either go to A&E or directly to the police. I know it sounds terrifying but they have people specially trained to deal with this and really can help you. You've done the right thing so far and it's so important that you take the next step and get these swabs taken. And please believe us when we tell you that IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT, YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG. Honey I wish you all the courage and strength in the world. If you can't tell your mum straight away, do so when you feel ready, but the priority right now is to get the swabs taken so that this guy can be brought to justice and you can start to heal and get on with your life. I can't imagine what you're going through right now, but I am praying for you, that you will get over this horrific incident, but for right now, the important thing (as soon as possible), is to get to the police or hospital. If you can have someone along with you for support, that would probably help a huge amount. All the best darling.

Answer 3

Tell your mother right away and then make a police report about it, it doesn't matter your word comes first in the eyes of the officers and staff believe me I know by personal experience. It's the hardest thing to get over being raped by someone you thought loved you!! You should of told them that night and got your mother to bring you to the ER for a rape kit to be done but there is still hope, he will get what he deserves, they all do at one point in time!! I'm sorry to hear that you had to go through this, it's nothing to play around with!!! Don't be embarrassed about it that's the last thing that you should do.

Answer 4

First of all, what you should do is go to the docters, I believe they will be able to tell if it was forced and all, tell your mom what happened regardless though, you will need support to go through this.
Don't feel this is your fault in any way, people will try and say that it is, or that you're over reacting, you know the truth.
I am a victim of rape myself, my mistake was that I kept my mouth shut, I was 16 and he was 21 in the military. I was too scared to say anything and played it off as if he was my boyfriend, to keep myself and my family safe.
When my parents did find out, they had a really hard time believing me because of how I was and all, but they also knew that I wasn't lying for the simple fact of how I reacted when the jerk had the guts to come to my door.
He did the same thing as your should be ex, he acted like he did nothing wrong, not one bit.
You should not be embarrassed my any means, you're a victim, you will find out that in order to get through this, you need to face what happened, let your parents know, go to the docters and honestly, you need to press charges.
I wish you the best of luck and remember, you did nothing wrong unless you keep your mouth shut.

Answer 5

You should definitely seek help. It's probably best you go to the police as soon as possible even if you choose not to tell your mother yet. They will probably be able to get you in touch with trained experts who can give you counselling and legal advice. It's hard for me to give you any suggestions as to who you could talk to as I don't know where you live so don't know what support services are available in your area. If you feel you need someone to talk to about things then you can always email me if you would like some support. I'm not an expert in these issues but could maybe help you find someone better qualified to talk to and lend a friendly ear. You need to make sure he doesn't do this to anyone else. People will be there for you if you open up to them about what you've been through. There are people out there who will care. Be strong.

Answer 6

I know how difficult it is to tell your mom. I still haven't told my mom about my sexual abuse in the past. I wish I did. It's been an hour since you posted this question. I hope by the time you recieve my response you would of had the strength to tell your mom.

Remember it maybe be your word against his, but you have the evidence. It's never too late to report it, but you should do so right now b/c you have more evidence to use against him. So, I highly recommend that you tell your mother. I know it's embarressing, and degrading. I always thought I would know better then to let myself get into a situation like that but, we can never predict it. It isn't your fault in anyway. I think you should try to gather the strength to tell your mom. I can tell you the whole process of it all I was with my bestfriend through everything, so if you want to know more information about what happens after you report, I'll glady help you. I wish every day that I reported what happened to me. Since then, I know of 3 girls that were raped. In many ways I think I could of prevented what happened to them if I had only reported it. Just because no one heard you and you two were dating doesn't make what he did to you right. You refused to have sex, he ignored that right that you process as a person, and raped you. You don't have to prove anything to anyone. Report it because you have every right to report what happened.

Gather your strength, and courage. Find it in you to tell your mom.
If you can't tell her, write a letter and hand it too her. Good luck!

-.-'

Answer 7

Print all these answers out. There are going to be people who will not be supportive at all. Don't let yourself forget that it's NOT your fault. This will have been one of the hardest things you will have had to do in your life, to deal with this.

Along with telling your Mom and the police, seek support out immediately. You are going to have to be strong when others are not strong for you. Do NOT ever be with this boyfriend EVER again alone.

I hope your Mom is there for you. I'm so sorry this happened to you. You are going to have to allow yourself a lot of "down time" with no expectations on yourself after you've told your Mom and the police. Allow yourself to heal and be so kind to yourself. Resolve to not hurt others the way you have been hurt.

The best....

Answer 8

You have no reason to be embarassed but you need to tell you mother and call the police. If he gets away with it this time there will be a next time. No matter what is proved, this will more than likely stop him from doing this again. Do not be embarassed. Tell your mom you need to talk to her and need to be taken to the hospital. Do it now Do Not wait because then youll be asked why you waited!

Answer 9

Don't feel embarrassed, you didn't do anything wrong! You need to tell your mom and call the cops. It's not your fault and I am so sorry you had to go through this, but don't let him get away with it. He may have over powered you, but show him just how strong you are. Sometimes telling people the truth is the hardest part. Be strong honey.

Answer 10

Tell your mother.. If you have not showered yet dont, though most people tend to shower after a rape. Have your mother call the police, So many date rapes go unanswered because people feel like no one is going to beleive them.. the fact of the matter is You HAVE to tell someone.. or these things continue to go unanswered... I am so avid about this because my little sister was raped by her boyfriend the year i left for college. and Nothing happend... So..