Need some more opinions on this. She dumped me a week and a half ago (mostly my fault). She texted me a week after saying she misses me. I called the next day to see if she wanted to meet. She didn't reply but sent me a text saying "i don't know what i want to do. Just give me a while. I'm sorry". My response was "No worries. If you give me a chance to show you change rather than tell you that would be great. If not, that's okay too. Sometimes you get one shot and if that's the case here than there is nothing i can do. I hope you let me win your heart. take care.
Did I do the right thing here? I don't know if she will come back? Is she playing games? I am moving on regardless. I hope she does give me a shot but I don't know what else to do. I don't know if she is with another dude but i guess i can't control that either. What do you guys think? Is she coming back? She has not called me since, its been almost two weeks.
2007-01-16 11:35:49 · 21 answers · asked by D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry, I meant its been three days since those texts but two weeks since we broke up.
2007-01-16 11:52:32 · update #1
She now knows you're sitting there waiting, so there's no rush to go back to you... you're hoping to win her heart. So that makes single life more exciting, knowing there's you willing to wait.
Why do you want her back? Not knowing what to do means "I don't really want to be with you".
Don't you want a girl who LOVES to be with you and KNOWS she wants you?
2007-01-16 11:40:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What I would suggest is that you lay low for now, if she doesn't respond within like a month or so, or if you find out she is in fact with someone else, than move on forward with your head high.
But if I were you, I would give yourself some time alone without meeting up with any new girls or anything until it's been like a month or you know for a fact that you two will not be getting back together.
She may be taking the time to put her head together, and give her that time. But don't keep pushing her or anything like that. I really would not go out and start seeing other people because if she is thinking things through and you do that, you may never get her back at all if there was ever a chance.
So take the time right now to heal and you'll know in your heart when the right time is as far as going out and meeting new people.
2007-01-16 19:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by !?! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a girl but i couldnt have replied any better,
You did the right thing. You should move on but don't be a D ick
Two things may happen .
One , you send her another text asking" How you doing what are you up to ?" and tell her that you have been thinking about her a lot.
See what she replies with.
Two. You do your own thing and over a short time if you guys meet again and feel the same way you will get together.
Everyone misses the ex boyfriend or girlfriend even if you dumped them . Also depends how strong headed she is and for what reason you seperated.
2007-01-16 19:47:16 · answer #3 · answered by grainy33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. If she's confused and needs space, then you should respect that. After another week or so, text her asking how she's doing. Or invite her to go do something with a group of friends. If you get more negative signals at that time, then it's probably over for good. If she keeps up the contact or even agrees to hang out, then take it oh so slow. Don't bring up your feelings for her. Only be a friend. And wait for her to make a move towards something more.
2007-01-16 19:43:10 · answer #4 · answered by Eowyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much too late bud. This is a done deal. Most gals don't want to repeat the story.. so they usually don't go back but want to be your friend.
In most cases this wouldn't work out. You have let her see the real you and she probably is glad to be out of the relationship
Hope you learn by your mistakes.
You would be smart to move on cause she already has.
Don't waste any more time and don't make the same mistake next time.
2007-01-16 19:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask to meet and ask her straight out. Be upfront with her and honest. And ask for her to do the same.
Just say I really enjoy your company and wish for us to try once more. Tell her you realize you were in the wrong and why. and you are willing to prove the change in you. etc....
But BE HONEST and Sincere! But if that seems to fail then move on.
good luck.
p.s. sorry that's the best advice i could give. hope it helps.
remember one thing"don't sorrow over a broken heart, if the words don't change...move on and learn from it."author unknown.
2007-01-16 19:46:18 · answer #6 · answered by vkewl182 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u said what u felt and its up to her to decide but if it isnt meant to be then its just u need to move on let your heart guide u to the right place into another one she might be playing games shes playing with your emotion and do u want to be with someone like that i know its hard just take steps and be strong and if she doesnt come back then its her lost and no worry u can breath and continue and move on from there
2007-01-16 19:45:15 · answer #7 · answered by dvcgurl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh your so patient, she is lucky, but really move on, you gave her time and you even spoke sweet words. you will find some one else that is more deserving. It seems that you do like this girl if you want you could alway just hold on for a few more days and give her another txt saying that if she doesnt get in contact with you, you understand and that you will let her go.
2007-01-16 19:50:30 · answer #8 · answered by Bex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it all depends on what u did. if nothing comes out of this just know u learned what not to do next time. don't wait around either cause u might pass up the perfect girl
2007-01-16 19:40:22 · answer #9 · answered by aspen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is trying to let you down gently. She knows what she wants thats why she is gone. If she truely loved you...this wouldn't of happened and she wouldn't be happing issues or going back and forth.
There is another guy..she is seeking out...if it doesn't work then she'll come back. She is just using you..dude..move on and get rid of her.
2007-01-16 19:40:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋