does this make me a bad person. I've been married since I was 16, I don't know how to live being single. But I am single now and I hate it. I miss taking care of a man and loving him and having someone by my side to do things with. But when I do talk to men about being married 5 times, they back away. They think something is wrong with me. I would say I messed up on 2 of my marriages[i cheated]. I dont' want to spend the rest of my life alone....
2007-01-16 11:16:18 · 38 answers · asked by Hobit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The reason you hate being single is because you've never really been single. At 16, you're just starting to really live in the dating sense, but you got married. And ever since you've been afraid to be alone because marriage is all you've ever known. For now, just stay single. Try to have fun, hang out with your single friends. Get a dog or something to take care of. And don't go looking for another husband. If you stop looking and just have fun and keep an open mind, someone will come. oh, and as to the cheating...I'm going to guess that you cheated because you were desperate for some freedom. You robbed yourself of the chance to have that kind of fun and after a while it got to you. In the future, don't rush down the aisle. Date for a loooong time until you know for certain that this is someone you could really spend every single day of the rest of your life with.
2007-01-16 11:23:49 · answer #1 · answered by Eowyn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Instead of asking if you are a bad person, perhaps you need to ask yourself why you feel the need to marry 5 times. I totally get that you hate being alone. But good GAWD, you can still be single without being alone. To be honest, while I don't think you are a bad person, I do believe there is something a little off about someone with so many marriages under their belt. I think I would take some time off of the marriage-go-round and find out who I really was and what I really wanted out of life before making a 6th mistake.
2007-01-16 11:22:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not a bad person just because you have been married 5 times. I am curious as to why you feel the need to be married. You can have a relationship with someone, to do things with, to love and cherish, without that piece of paper. I commend you for admitting to cheating in two of the marriages. I do feel 5 is a bit excessive, but I have not walked in your shoes. I don't think you will spend the rest of your life alone, too many men out there looking for someone to love and take care of them. I would just hold off on the license for a while. Good luck, may you find your happiness
2007-01-16 11:22:00 · answer #3 · answered by MommaSchmitt 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I really feel you must live on your own and prove to yourself that you are a capable woman who can take care of herself. Marrying at 16 the first time did not give you a chance to mature and discover who "you are". Now is the time to do so. Not knowing how old you are or how long your marriages lasted or why the other three did not work out leaves me puzzled to give you any other advice. Get counseling, maybe a roomate (female) and a pet. Seriously, I am not being sarcastic. A roommate and a pet would help you get past some of these feelings of having to have a man in your life while you are going through counseling. Hang in there.
2007-01-16 11:26:17 · answer #4 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want to spend the rest of your life alone you need to find a guy and take it slow and don't rush into things, then tell him about your past marriages. If he really loves you he will understand, but if you want to make the marriage work you need to realize that you must STOP CHEATING on your husbands.
You said you miss taking care of a man and loving him, well if you keep cheating on a man, he will leave you and find another woman who will actually love him and take care of him.
2007-01-16 11:22:31 · answer #5 · answered by Dan 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 08:04:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take this time and do something you have never had the opportunity to do since you say you've been married since 16....take this time and get to know yourself, being married 5 times doesn't make you a bad person but maybe if you would've taken some you time and learned about you then it would've help you choose a better husband.....so don't look at being single as a bad thing, look at it as a learning experience....best wishes
2007-01-16 11:20:22 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think being alone for a while is just what you need...only to find yourself. you are not defined by being someones wife..
it does not make you a bad person that you have been married 5 times, but the truth of the matter is it is going to scare a good deal of men away...you can't change that, so get yourself good , and then once you pursue the next man, you may have better tools to pick the right one.
2007-01-16 11:21:00 · answer #8 · answered by shasta 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you are a bad person. Perhaps it is the type of men you go out with. Or maybe there is something deep inside of you that doenst make these marriages work. I think it would really help you out if you go and talk to a couselor. It would help you understand alot of things and hopefully make you feel better about yourself or try to help you live single. Good Luck :)
2007-01-16 11:20:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I just remarried ( my second), his fifth. When he told me that he had been married four times before, it sure made me pause. But then I thought - he must be the perennial optimist to want to do this again. I took the plunge. It's only been 7 months now, but it is wonderful. If you want to get back into the pool, you better do some hard thinking. Maybe even some counseling... Be honest, what do you want out of life. If you are just scared of being alone - that is not enough.
2007-01-16 11:21:51 · answer #10 · answered by juneaulady 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋