We moved in together after only a few weeks of dating- it was a move-in of convienence. Two months later, (and after telling me that he loved me), he says that he can't be anybody's bf because it's "too much pressure."
Now he's dating his ex girlfriend, and he's been sleeping over at her house 5 nights out of the week. We have seperate bdrms now, but we still live together.
He's been seeing her for about two weeks. Yesterday and the day before, we had sex. It was out of the blue the first day, but sort of "planned" the next- you know, teasing and what not lead to sex. We agreed it never would leave the house, but, understandably, I'm upset. I know I have to end it, but how do I do that?
He's having his cake and eating it too. Do I tell his girlfriend that he's still sleeping with me? Do I just end the "after relationship sex" and move on? Do I kick him out?
2007-01-16 11:02:02 · 16 answers · asked by K S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont tell his girlfriend she wont believe you anyway cause he will just minipulate her into believing that your a liar. I dont think that it was wise for you to have sex with him after what he has done to you, but that is to late and i know that you know that too. I do think that you need to talk to him about him moving in with his ex as you mentioned that you moved in with him or did you mean he moved in with you. Anyway you do need to get him out of your life, he will get whats coming to him, just dont get all upset over it, as you will be in more pain than its worth.
2007-01-16 11:09:28 · answer #1 · answered by Bex 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my most humble opinion, I say kick his a**. Hehe. J/k....violence is not the way. I think this is definitely not healthy for you, but I know you already know that. My next suggestion is to kick him out or you move out, I know it's easier said than done, but hey.....you cant be living like this. Specially now that you had sex with him, I mean he can have both girls at the same time and not deal with relationships, you dont need this.
And about telling his ex-gf, well I know it will make you feel so much better...it's just a normal reaction...to get even.....but...ask yourself...Is it gonna fix anything, wht good is it gonna do? Probably nothing....all it's gonna do is make you seem like some desperate chick......and right now you probably dont care...but a couple months from now you're gonna wish you would've walked away with your dignity intact and your head up high :D
So think about it and Good Luck.
2007-01-16 11:15:22 · answer #2 · answered by ?Jaileen? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off you need to know what you want...do you want him or have you had enough. But i have been there too. Just get him out of there! if you can't afford to then just ignore him completely. You are giving him a reason to do what he is doing. He now knows that you will put up with him seeing her and sleeping with you...and he is gonna keep on. This will only hurt you when he leaves to be with her or finds a 3rd person to enjoy. You can be a Bi#@ and tell the ex(hehe) just to get even or you can be a lil more mature and just tell him you don't want or need him and it is time he moves on.
One thing i have learned...sex complicates everything. Get out now while you may save your sanity.
2007-01-16 11:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by ifOnly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the "after relationship sex" definitely has to stop. now about kicking him out... do you think you will be able to get over this and be friends with him after all this?? if so, it´s ok, he can stay. just make sure he´ll be sharing the bills and chores just like any other roommate would. but if you want my personal opinion i think it would be better to live apart from each other, since the chances of falling into temptation (i.e. sleeping with him again) are a lot bigger if you two are under the same roof. just don´t let him get away with dating you two at the same time.
2007-01-16 11:10:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
while you're having intercourse popular for the previous week with your ex and you're interior the technique of breaking apart with some guy it makes you a cheater . leave the guy tell him which you're going lower back with the ex yet make beneficial the ex truly needs you not what he can get out of you
2016-10-07 06:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by marceau 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a guy... and i would be enjoying the situation a lot cause not only hes seeing his ex, he's also having sex with you! .... if you wanna stay with him tell him you wont put up with him seeing his ex, and if you are fine with the break up then kick him out, he has nothing to be there for, now if you need a roomie then let him stay until you find one but do not sleep with him or flirt or give him any indication that you still like him like that, he needs to feel he lost you , and be nice as a friend but bitchy if he tries to get you into bed
2007-01-16 11:11:24 · answer #6 · answered by [[ BuGs ]] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u needa move out! she's gonna find out either way, n ure just as wrong as he is. all 3 of u r gonna get hurt. n how r u gonna put him out when u moved in w/him in da 1st place? no, u needa move on n find sum1 else 2 live with, cus right now ure causing trouble. u should feel bad about sleepin w/him n u know he has a gf. planned or not, u have the power to say no or stop. it's u fault as much as it is his.
2007-01-16 11:06:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he was your ex, why is he still there. All he's doing is having you on the side. And that we won't do it again isn't going to happen because you will as long as hes there. SO need to kick him out and move on and not owrry about him anymore.
2007-01-16 11:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is completely using you and his ex-girlfriend - get rid of him & quickly. He was probably cheating on you before with his ex.
But before you dump his butt, do the deed one more time - if you want leverage. If you want to keep the place and force him to move out make sure you videotape your next redevoux (make sure the date & time function is on). That way, when you tell him to get the hell out, he will have no choice unless he doesn't care if you show your video to his ex-girlfriend.
That's one sure way to nip his manipulating a**. Go for it.
2007-01-16 11:17:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who paid more for the rent? if its ur place, kick him out. If its his, you go out. You know already that he is having his cake & eating it too, stop it. YOu are the losing party here& ur ex-bf is a bloody wanker!
Move out NOW& move on. YOu know that you deserve someone much better than him.
2007-01-16 11:09:29 · answer #10 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋