my mom is mad at my dad and well they argue all the time so ya am tied of hearing it so there argueing right now and am scared to say something with out getting in trouble so what you you people think.
2007-01-16 10:59:55 · 29 answers · asked by Mebre 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Buck up and talk to them. As long as you're nice about it, maybe a few tears might help, they'll understand that their fighting is not only hurting them. Go for it and good luck.
2007-01-16 11:03:46 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, when people are in the middle of fighting, it's the worst time to tell them that it upsets you. They're too angry to think clearly and may start yelling at you. Your Mom may have a good reason to be angry with your Dad. However, I know how hard it is to listen to parents arguing.
When your Mom is calm, sit down with her. Ask her if it's an OK time to talk. Tell her that you really need to talk to her about this because it upsets you so much. Then tell her how much it stresses you to hear the arguing. Tell her how you feel physically and emotionally. Does it make your stomach hurt? Does it scare you? Does it distract you from your studies? Share all this with her. She's so upset with the way things are in her life that she hasn't really been able to think clearly about how this affects you and any siblings you may have. All the best.
2007-01-16 19:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by Loki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you the entire time I was growing up my mom and step-father argued but he would also hit her in front of me and his two biological children. Fighting parents are hard to deal with and hard to ignore but you do have options, you can sit down with them together or individually and tell them that their arguing is having a negative effect on you and come up with a solution or try to find some activities that keep you out of the house so that you don't have to be around it. I hope the situation improves, all my best to you.
2007-01-16 19:08:59 · answer #3 · answered by Katprsn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if it bothers you, say something. Ask them politely not to argue while you're in ear-shot. Tell them that you love them both, and hearing them argue hurts you. Then leave the room.
Reasonably you shouldn't get in trouble- just be polite and let them know how you feel- without going out of bounds.
2007-01-16 19:04:30 · answer #4 · answered by K S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave them a note telling them how the arguing affects you. It would be very difficult to confront this issue head on, but if you don't say something you will go crazy.
If they understand how it is affecting you, they may work towards "fixing" the problem. Be supportive and don't pick sides. If there is a bad outcome (eg. divorce) don't buy into either one trying to win you over to "thier side". Be Sweeden, neutral.
Good luck
2007-01-16 19:06:19 · answer #5 · answered by kb6jra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man i cant tell you how many times i have had to deal with this. hearing parents argue can definitely get on your nerves, not to mention start to stress you out. the best thing you can do is to tell your parents how you feel. they may not like what you say, and maybe you might get grounded, but at least you'll feel like you got your two cents worth put in. dont be afraid to speak up. you have the right, as their child, to say something. dont be afraid to hold them accountable for their actions. good luck, i hope that helped!
2007-01-16 19:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, how old are you? If you are younger you need to talk to your grandmother, grandfather, aunt, uncle; whoever an older adult in your family is that knows your parents, and is close to you. Tell them the situation, and see what they have to say. Maybe you could stay with them for a while.
ALSO you should make an appointment to talk to your school counselour about this. Don't be nervous about it, that's what they are there for. And trust me, they have dealt with a WIDE range of problems. So they will definately be able to help.
2007-01-16 19:07:03 · answer #7 · answered by LaDyLuCk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them how u feel and that your really tired of hearing it or if u don't want to then try to go to a friends house or somewhere away while they argue if ya cant then go in your room and just turn up the music. try to ignore it
2007-01-16 19:06:08 · answer #8 · answered by Pookie! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your mom/dad is alone go talk to one of them and say how you feel! My parents used to fight. But, I think they were the ones that got tired of the screaming. I couldn't stand it either, so I said what was on my mind! It didn't help much but, I didnt get into trouble! It didn't work for me, although, I have a high expectation that you can make it work! :D
2007-01-16 19:05:55 · answer #9 · answered by km_amazing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your that concerned and they are arguing a lot TELL THEM that they are making your homelife very uncomfortable. They may then just do it in private, or tell you to mind your business. But just remind them you have a right to feel safe and happy at home, and they are making you miserable. I hope for your sake they take into consideration how much this is affecting you.
Good Luck xoxo
2007-01-16 19:04:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until they calm down and stop arguing. Get them in the same room, and then just tell them how you feel. How they're behavior affects you. speak from the heart. Maybe they don't even know that it makes you feel that way.
sometimes the kids gotta treat their parents like children when their acting like kids
good luck
2007-01-16 19:05:08 · answer #11 · answered by Estelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋