I have this friend who I think I like him, but I'm not sure... but sometimes I feel I want to just have something something with him... we've always been cute with each other, calling each other names like babe, my love, cutie, things like that... should I let him know, or wait for him to ask???? WHAT SHOULD I DO???
2007-01-16 10:53:29 · 7 answers · asked by aries 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately, once the benefits begin, one of the parties is likely to fall in love--or at least want more than the other person. It is risky to do this type of thing--as you could wind up losing the best friend you ever had.
I'm not saying that some people can't make it work--but it can be complicated in the majority of cases.
2007-01-16 10:58:44 · answer #1 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Short answer:
Let him know and enjoy yourselves...lots of guys learn never to ask, even if they do want something from the woman/girl, because it makes them seem weak and/or creepy...if it messes up your friendship it just means the friendship wasn't strong to begin with and was likely a cover-up for sexual yearnings.
.....and if you turn out to find a lot of both personal and sexual excitement with each other, you just become boyfriend and girlfriend and have a blast....
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The details:
Friends with benefits can be healthy...if doing it messes up a friendship, chances are the friendship is too fragile and/or not honest enough to be great in the long-run anyhow: it could be there for sexual yearnings, insecurity, or many other unhealthy reasons.
At your age especially (I am guessing you are "under 20-ish"), it is important to honestly find out what does and does not work for you sexually, as opposed to, say, getting married, finding out what you thought was "your type" not really being fun, and then divorcing him.
Beside, think about it: if you want him but you pretend to be "just friends" you're not being honest and telling the whole truth. And, until you guys know if it is or is not meant to be between you, you likely are going to act differently around other people you date (IE part of your mind will always be wondering about your friend), which is unfair to them.
So don't feel guilty about "popping the question".
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Have fun!
2007-01-16 18:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by M S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits can be great -- as long as you make that clear from the beginning -- that way no one gets their feelings hurt!
2007-01-16 18:57:22 · answer #3 · answered by Hammer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is very disgusting, to be someones friend, and only a friend, knowing u **** them all the time and its nothing more than a booty call. Really trashy
2007-01-16 19:00:36 · answer #4 · answered by the_chick 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
jump his bones already
2007-01-16 18:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by obnoxioustroll5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do whatever feels right
2007-01-16 18:57:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if it is worth ruining your friendship over do it .
2007-01-16 18:57:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋