Should I hide, or seek?

Question

I recently broke up with my boyfriend, but I still care deeply for him, and it worries me that I haven’t seen him since I broke up with him 5 days ago.
We go to the same collage, share the same friendship group and I am in some of the same classes as him, so it seems odd that I wouldn't have seen him, I have the strong feeling that he is avoiding me, and I am wondering whether I should go and find him and make sure he is okay, or should I let him avoid me for longer?

Answer 1

Seeing the person who just broke it off with you would be difficult. Because you share class schedules and friends, this makes it especially hard. I understand that you did what you needed to do, but now he needs to do an ostrich imitation. Give him a wide berth so that he'll be able to move forward, just as you must. If you're concerned about his welfare, ask a friend that you have in common if he's OK. Explain that you're worried since you haven't seen him since you broke it off. Period. Chances are this is difficult for the friends that you have in common, so don't force them to take sides. Sorry about your split. No matter who initiates it, it's hard on both and as you've said, the feelings don't automatically end! All the best.

Answer 2

If u deeply still care for him, u should seek him out. If u don't find him, u will think and wonder even more and more. If u see him and he knows that u still care, it can only help u resolve misunderstanding, differences between the two of u. When two people who were once lovers separated a period of time, and later meet up again, sometimes that can be a good thing. Good luck.

Answer 3

I know it's hard but let him be. The truth is that you seeking him out - especially if you dumped him - will not make him feel better. It will be difficult bing in the same classes together, but just be friendly and less is more for a while. He honestly probably is avoiding you, but that's just how life and break ups go. It will be healthier and in the long run better for both of you. Good luck!

Answer 4

He is probably hurt and embarrassed. Don't try to find him. If you have mutual friend, use them for info. He probably just needs some time to think things through and heal. If you still haven;' heard anything in about a week or so, I would call and tell him that you are worried. But don't push too hard or it will just piss him off.

Answer 5

Go find him let him know that you care for him as a friend just because things did not work out between you two you got to become enemies. Let him know that you there for him as a friend. Don't lie just tell him how it is

Answer 6

U r the one that broke up with him maybe u should give him space and if he hasn't talked to u in 2 weeks than go find him. talking to him now is just going to make it hurt worst for him and that isn't fair

Answer 7

You're probably right, he probably is avoiding you. The man has been hurt, but wants to maintain his dignity. It's more important to respect is wish to maintain his dignity then it is to express your concern. I would NOT suggest hunting him down. Give him time to deal with it in his way, on his terms and he'll probably come back around when he's ready.

Answer 8

You broke up with him so the relationship is over. Leave him alone you wanted space so now you have it. He is just taking time clear his mind. Don't act like a girlfriend when you're not one.

Answer 9

Since you have mutual friends, I would suggest asking around, making sure that someone has been in contact with him. Just express your concern that you hadn't seen him around campus.

Answer 10

I would ask his friends if hes ok, if they dont know maybe send him a txt askin how he is and say ur worried cause u havent seen him in class.