I have been dating someone for 6 months who does not consider himself to be my boyfriend. He had a female friend visit him for the long weekend. Am I justified in asking if she is more than a friend? Is this too long to date a man who doesn't consider you a girlfriend?
2007-01-16 10:38:09 · 18 answers · asked by Nic79 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you can ask, that is your right, and 6 months is too long if you are feeling like he is your boyfriend, have some respect for yourself and demand that he be straight with you or you should leave him
2007-01-16 10:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
People can date for years. It all depends on the two people involved. By the sounds of it, he wants no commitments to you, because he has made it clear you aren't his girlfriend. If this is the case then you have no right to ask. If he has said that he is exclusively dating you, that is a different story. This means that he isn't going to date or mess around with any other women until he decides if he wants you as his girlfriend or not. In this case you would have the right to ask. If you are tired of dating him and want more, you need to tell him this and make it clear if he doesn't decide you are willing to leaving. He could be happy going on for years like this if he is getting everything from the relationship that he wants. If this is the case their is no reason for him to make a commitment. Why would he if he thinks you are both ok with this arrangement? It's your move, as they say in chess.
2007-01-16 19:04:30 · answer #2 · answered by Danny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him he not worth it, he's a two timer and very inconsiderate it seem to me the only female he should have over for the weekend is you and if she just a friend he should have asked you to be there with him,go ahead and ask without acting jealous then decide whether you want to continue with him or not remember you are important to, so keep and open mind there's more fish in the sea and you deserve the best, I'm sure there someone out there to whom you'll be the most wonderful women and he'll have eyes only for you. I wish the best for you.
2007-01-16 19:31:38 · answer #3 · answered by lilymarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello "Nic79,"
While I don't know the details, my wife has an expression that I've learned to respect: Think the worst, and you're probably right."
I know it may be harsh, and I don't want to mess things up for a fellow guy, but I won't not have a "female friend" hang out with me alone for the weekend if I had a serious relationship.
I think back to when I was dating my now wife. I would not do anything to mess things up, and even cause her to suspect anything.
If he does not consider you his girlfriend, and you're looking for something serious, you've got some serious thinking to do.
Good luck in whatever you decide.
VoR
2007-01-16 18:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by Voice_Of_Reason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 months you have been dating and yet he doesnt consider you a girlfriend, so what are you guys??? He sounds to be a player my girl, if he has a female friend for the LONG weekend i think that your right she is more than a friend. I mean i wouldnt stand for it, i know you were asking men....but really let him go, he doesnt seem to really care about you.
2007-01-16 18:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by Bex 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Would you visit a male friend for a weekend if you were just friends and nothing would happen? If the answer is yes, than you have nothing to worry about.
2007-01-16 18:42:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not be ready for a commitment to one person. Confronting him probably is the best you can do. At least you will know the score once and for all. It may be time for you to move on. Life is too short to waste it on maybes and ifs. Like the song says: "Breaking up is hard to do". Don't let it drag out. It should be settled ASAP. There will always be hurts in life. The quicker we get over them, the quicker we can get on with our lives.
2007-01-16 19:02:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would ask him about it. Let him know how you feel. Talk openly. The only thing is.. it's hard to talk about such things because the answer may be difficult. However, it sounds like it's already difficult.
I wish you the best.
2007-01-16 18:42:33 · answer #8 · answered by Steve H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down with him and talk about your feelings about each other. it sounds to me that he doesn't feel the same way you do for him. if he's serious about dating you then he wouldn't be having other women staying with him for long weekends. if he does say that he feels the same way about you, then i think he's just playing you. keep an eye on him.
2007-01-16 18:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by gp93bw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're not on the same page. If he doesn't consider himself to be your boyfriend you better talk about it a.s.a.p. He may be "playing the field."
2007-01-16 18:42:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋