i tell him how much i love him and he tells me, were perfect and we talk about getting married but people keep telling him were too young, are we?? im 18 and he is 19 and were already have two years of college behind us and we have a good job and he has his own place do you think he should ask me to marry him?
2007-01-16 10:37:16 · 13 answers · asked by Jaylynn's mommy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
been together for over a year and 8 months, were truly in love
2007-01-16 10:40:49 · update #1
You are still too young to get married, give it more time, you two are only 18/19 give it another 2 / 3 + yrs then see who knows you may not even like each other by then.
2007-01-16 11:14:57 · answer #1 · answered by jlw78418 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask yourselves, "are we too young to get married?" Even though being 18 is classified as an adult, I don't believe it. I think that should be changed to 21. Just my opinion and from experience. I'm 23 and got engaged last year. We're planning on getting married in 2008. No rush here. And at my age, a lot of people tend to settle down. If I was your age, I would know that I'm too young to get married at 18 and well it's obvious by everyone around you. Like one of the previous answers, it's a year to make mistakes and I totally agree with that. I had a blast during my teens and I can't imagine it any other way. I was always a mature girl even at 18, but after turning 21 there's so much more out there that you never knew/know. Everything in general. But now that I am an adult with lots of responsibilities and priorities I/we feel that we're ready to take that next step in our relationship.
I'm not against people who get married at a young age, but I hope young people could gives themselves the chance, the only chance to live out their teens and that if they do get married they are doing it for the right reasons and are ready to make a serious commitment for life.
I wish you the very best!
2007-01-16 20:26:36 · answer #2 · answered by finesse521 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I got married at 18 (my husband was 22). We've been married seven years and are still pretty crazy about each other. I will tell you that marriage is hard work. If you two decide to get married, be prepared for it to get difficult more than once. Weathering those tough times has strengthened our marriage and made us appreciate each other more through each stuggle.
BTW, my parents were married at 19 and 20, they've been married over 30 years and are still going strong.
Best wishes to you.
2007-01-16 18:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are still young, youre better off waiting to get married. If your still together and going strong in a few years, go for it! There is no rush for marriage. And when you start getting into your 20s, you will both change and maybe not be right for each other. It dont matter if your married or not, as long as your together, right? Then, if it dont work out, you wont have to deal with divorce. Please, take your time. Good luck!
2007-01-16 18:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by angel187_25 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
maybe instead of getting married right off the bat, how about you guys move in together... because you are younger and still in school, dealing with marriage, and exams and finals can easily be stressful, i'd say if you know you love each other and you can be happy by living together for now and then after graduation looking at marriage... that would probably be the smarter thing. plus who said you cant live together for awhile..then get engaged for a while during school THEN get married after graduation!?
i'm 20and my b/f is 23 and we know were going to get married we've been together for 2 1/2 yrs now and still going strong and still have our own places, but we both know that we need to finish school and deal with those stresses before getting married and starting a family...but like we've discussed...y couldnt we be engaged for the last year or so of school then marriage after!?!!!
goodluck!!
we're young and have a ways ahead of us...im not saying giv it 10yrs..but maybe another3 or4~
2007-01-16 19:59:25 · answer #5 · answered by roxybeach793 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No.. I've seen some terrible crap go down from teen marriage.. My boyfriend and I are both 19. We are going to get married, but what's the rush in getting married if you're gonna spend the rest of your lives together anyways? Two years of college doesn't mean anything. Unless you can afford a house or a kid.. I wouldn't think on it. What's the rush?
2007-01-16 18:57:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think age, college, a place to live, your love, etc are a good enough reason to get married or not get married. IF HE WANTS TO MARRY YOU then he should propose. Those other things are things to consider before picking a date, etc - but are not a reason for or against an engagement.
2007-01-16 21:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by Chrys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not yet. Please take this advice, finish college and if the two or you are still going strong then get married. I have asked my daughters to wait until they are at least 23 before getting married and at least 25 before having children. At ages 18 & 19 chances are that neither of you are really ready for marriage. If you love each other, there shouldn't be any hurry.
2007-01-16 18:43:41 · answer #8 · answered by Saz_E 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
omg!!! why do you worry about this? imagine that you have so many things to do before you take this huge step! and i have experience in the matter...i was about to get married this year (i'm 22) and i realised that i would be leaving behind so many things, just for getting married...it's not fair. Not for him or for you, it would be the same thing for him...
First move on and do whatever it is you dream of doing, and then think of getting married ;) If the feeling is real it will be there until you guys are ready. And if it's meant to happen, it will, no matter what.
2007-01-16 19:14:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
finish school first and if it is true love you will last that long. It feels so good to be in love I thought that I was 3 times and when they moved in I wanted out after about one year or less
2007-01-16 18:47:22 · answer #10 · answered by Nani 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋