I've been living with my boyfriend for a while now. For some reason I feel the need to "snoop" through his things. I feel like he doesn't tell me some things. So I figure if I do a little looking around. Am I crazy?
2007-01-16 10:35:17 · 16 answers · asked by Jenny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your guy snooped thru your things, would that bother u? U have to look at it like that...He may not tell u some things because he knows u don't really trust him. And I wouldn't even want to be in a relationship with someone I could not trust. And what are u gonna do should go "looking around" one day and find something u really don't want to find? Then YOU"LL be hurt and blame him when u should not have been snooping anyway.
2007-01-16 11:05:27 · answer #1 · answered by JAY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not crazy but you're desperately insecure. You need to discuss your trust issues with your boyfriend and not go snooping around behind his back. He has the right to his privacy, just as you do, and he is not obliged to tell you everything. If he finds out what you are doing, he will be very upset, and he will have every right to be.
2007-01-16 18:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know a lot of women do that. When we feel there's a need to we will. Somewhere inside you, you don't trust him.You know you don't.In those things he don't tell you it doesn't mean he cheating or lien. Really think about it somewhere inside you is yours kind of like a sec art. We all have the right to keep some things to our selves.That's what makes us, us. Don't take that away from him. If he is cheating or doing something that is a no, no you will find out he can't hide it from you forever he lives with you. It don't mean your crazy. Something is going on in your trying to figure it out. Well do something read ten stupid things couples do to mess up their relationships by Dr. Laura C. Schlesinger the first chapter talks about what sec arts are keep to our selves in what sec arts do will tell our spouse. written by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger.
2007-01-16 18:50:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens with everyone....it gets to a point where they start acting different in certain situations so you start to panic...If it gets to a point where it bothers you alot confront him about it, ask him why is he acting different etc...but dont keep snooping cos you will get caught eventually and he will never trust you again and most likely break up with you..
2007-01-16 18:54:11 · answer #4 · answered by Twiddle D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No u r not crazy but obviously u cant trust him for whatever reason.
Its like u want to find something he is hiding. What r u goin to do when u find out he is? learn to love him for who he is or just leave and stop waisting your time. Or maybe just leave cause your not happy. Sorry! GOOD LUCK
2007-01-16 18:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by aspen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are like most women. They alway snoop. My ex ( WIFE) used to say, " If I haven't found anything means that I haven't looked hard enough".
2007-01-16 18:41:08 · answer #6 · answered by cowboybronco01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, poor guy. Give him some space, and private time.How would you like it ,if he did that to you? If you are intrested in what he does in his life,ask him, that usually works best.Not being sneaky,and dishonest behind his back,by going through his things.Cuiousity Killed The Cat.
2007-01-16 18:44:54 · answer #7 · answered by Summer :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u are crazy. u need to just be a woman and ask him if he is cheating. and if he says yes, then u won't have to waiste time trying to find something. grow up. u make women look bad.
2007-01-16 18:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your insecure and a woman, which means you want to put a collar on your man. you have issues with jealousy and possessions too i assume. get help. no man deserves a woman like that just as you dun deserve to feel like you do with him. break it off and find someone you can trust.
2007-01-16 18:41:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not worth the guilt you feel. Take it from me, if there is something he is hiding, he doesn't have proof of it in his wallet, but you will find out some day
2007-01-16 18:38:52 · answer #10 · answered by sunny_day_grl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋