I have been dating someone for nearly 6 months. I invited him out and he said he was going out with the boys that night and I didn't hear from him for a week and a half. When he called he didn't mention the fact he hadn't called for a week and then mentioned he ended up going to a friend's house the night I asked him out with his sister. Should I just dump him or explain to him why I am upset? This man is in his thirties.
2007-01-16 10:34:49 · 42 answers · asked by Nic79 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is a huge priority to you, but you are not that important to him, then yes. If he was hanging out with family, then it is legitimate, because I believe family comes first. If you feel you are not getting back as much as you put in, cut out. It may not be anyone's fault, but it seems that this situation will put you where you don't feel appreciated. Find out the facts first and then make your decision, and stick with it.
2007-01-16 10:40:50 · answer #1 · answered by FREEROB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking the question, should i dump him, it is time to dump him. If he didnt call you for a week and a half especially after going out wiht the boys instead of you, he isnt really a good boyfriend. With my last boyfriend i was always like shouldi dump him or not? and i dragged on for months. Dont do this! If you have any doubt about him and if u r asking this question, its time to really make a decision, quick.
2007-01-16 10:38:19 · answer #2 · answered by anna 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Neither. Instead of doing either, read, "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus." Then, understand that he didn't do anything wrong. Just realize that in addition to together time, he wants some separate time. So, figure out what else you could do during that time. Get a hobby, go out with the girls, read a book, rent a movie. Rather than making him your entire life, save part of your life for him, and figure out what else you want to do with your life. He'll love you all the more for being an individual.
2007-01-16 10:48:31 · answer #3 · answered by shine_radiantstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your dating someone and you don't hear from them for a week and half, then hes probably not someone you can rely on. I think the fact that you didn't call him is good also but you should definitely explain to him why your upset and if he doesn't react to that then thats not someone you want to be with because you will be miserable.
2007-01-16 10:41:17 · answer #4 · answered by Waythere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him how upset you are and see wtf is really going on between you two. If you both are committed to this relationship, there's no reason he needs to be taking for for a week and a half without a single phone call. Sounds a little immature for a 30 something year old to be doing. Give him an ultimatum... either be committed or be gone.
2007-01-16 10:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by mattysmommy2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well generally speaking a week and a half is a long time go without even calling the person that your dating. Most of the time this means he/she doesn't care about the relationship and wants to end it. I'm no relationship expert, I only know from experience. =)
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2007-01-16 10:47:09 · answer #6 · answered by Preston S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either dump him or change your expectations of the relationship. Either way it might not be the thing you thought it was. I was surprised when you mentioned he was in his thirties, up until then I had him pegged at about 16.......
2007-01-16 10:38:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i wouldnt dump him. If you guys want this relationship to last u have to stick together through the good and bad times. before u do any thing think about deeply. just talk it out and try to understa his side of the story. Hope u guys can work things out.
2007-01-16 10:40:22 · answer #8 · answered by Jordan J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, like story of my life. I would end your misery now, before it gets out of control. Speaking totally on experience here. If you're allowing him to pull this kind of stuff with you this early on in your relationship he's already discovered that you are easy to take advantage of. It seems like he's not as serious about your relationship as you are. I would definitely explain to him that you are upset, but don't waste any of your time trying to change him. even if he offers to change, don't rely on it happening, because it most likely wont.
2007-01-16 10:43:02 · answer #9 · answered by Maxiebedeeps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him why you are upset. A rational person will be willing to compromise and find a middle ground with you. If he won't then dump him.
2007-01-16 10:38:41 · answer #10 · answered by actionfolksinger 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋