He dumped me,then after a month he said we need to talk, so 2day i said hi to him on msn he started telling me about the insults he had heard from me (which were true i did insult him but not to his face and after the break up, someone had told him) anyway i said sorry and he said not to worry and that it was funny and that he deserved it( he broke up with me on msn saying he didn't feel the same) anyway i know he doesn't love me yet i still care for him a month later, should we remain friends we weren't friends to start off with we just dated, we went out for 2 months.is it a good idea to have contact?
2007-01-16 10:34:16 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know this guy. The answer is it depends on the ex, and 99% of the time it's a bad idea. That being said, I always try to be friends with mine, and some have been long friendships lasting 10 or more years, but most of them (about 60% in my case) have just used my intentions of remaining friends as an opening for either some attempt at exploitation or to take another jab at me just in case there was a possibility of undermining my self-esteem it seems.
The last one had somebody call me on Christmas Eve to get info on the router I set up, hadn't bothered to call in almost 5 months, but apparently needed something from me or was up to something devious (was the guy a new bf? who knows or cares?), so she had this guy call and ask for that info. Couldn't be bothered to do it herself: I need this but can't talk to you because I am a passive-agressive freak? Who knows? I waited until after Christmas to call and leave a message saying never to do that again, didn't owe her anything, blah, blah. Then felt bad about having to do that for a couple days.
Not usually a good idea.
2007-01-16 10:48:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both wanna be friends then go for it, providing you know each others intentions and that you can handle him only wanting you as a friend when u still care for him. I was with my ex for almost 2 yrs and we split a month ago, we have slept together a few times since we split which we prob shouldnt have but we have had heaps of talks and have agreed to remain friends and we both know there is a possibility of us getting back together in the future which makes it easier.
2007-01-16 18:38:54 · answer #2 · answered by Onie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!!
2007-01-16 18:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋