Let me rephrase...Have women changed over the years?

Question

I asked a question yesterday about if you think women have compromised their desires and values in order to please men. I received many responses that indicated that I had not asked the question appropriately. I want to know your opinion about the current trend in women who participate in porn, agree to watching it with bf/husband, are not offended at having it in their homes. Women who dress skimpy, work in strip clubs or boobie bars, have casual sex on the third date because guys expect it...I want to know if you think women have compromised their true desires and values to please men? I see such a change from how my Grandma lived. I am doing a paper and just want some points of view other than my own. Thanks.

Answer 1

I believe that society has changed greatly....
you are basically describing chicks that sell their selves for money in the most of your post, yet you blame the men for the lust they might or might not display toward them.
while many things have changed, prostitutes have been around for a long time, and the need for currency is the same, if you are asking if they do it to please men, i would say perhaps, but it is not necessary for a woman to do so, and i think you already are very aware of that.

"have casual sex on the third date because guys expect it..."

i believe that women act this way a lot of the time because of the raise in dependency, on drugs alcohol. of course it is not all about that but when you "need" something that is expensive you make sure to be able to have it, if at all possible...

i know I'm straying so stay with me..

i am going to argue that the % of "harlots" have most likely increased at least slightly since your grandma grew up but i think the key is that with the population increase it is much more apparent now a days then it was then, and the need for more money faster, is at its greatest...

i personally think the biggest change in "women" was the women's rights self sufficient hippy change.

I'm not trying to offend anyone but the "I can open the door for myself" stage i believe was a ... mistake, it changed more than women, it changed men much more so i am tempted to say.. so when women warrant delicate stay at home mothers anymore in one way or another the "gentlemen" disappeared... which is partially why men do expect so much so early from women now a days..

done with my spcheel...

too long, sorry, roundabout way of getting to my points.

Answer 2

It's a question from individual to individual. For many, I hope that a woman's interest in porn, having more sex partners and using her body as a means of survival is a change in women for the good. A woman is in charge of her sexuality and her body and makes choices based on what feels good and right to her. There are plenty of women who are in the porn industry and adult entertainment industry because they are coerced and have issues past or present with sexual abuse, self-esteem and/or drugs and alcohol. And there are lots of women who watch porn and have sex because they want to please and/or keep a man. But you can't lump everyone in together. It's a really faulty thesis. And it's insulting that you're saying a woman who wears a short skirt and has sex on the FIRST date is compromising her true desires and values. Maybe some do. But why can't a woman do what feels good to her as long as she isn't emotionally hurting herself?

Answer 3

Okay, I grew up during the "hippie" years, but most of us went by the values taught to us by our parents and churches. When we did have sex, it was because we truly believed we were in love with the guy--and that he loved us. Yes, there were a few who really believed in "free love," but it was not as common as you might hear or read it was.

In my mom's, and grandmom's years--people were usually at least engaged before having sex--and back then sex had little to do with the woman's pleasure. If anyone got pregnant, they immediately got married--there was not any other option. Of course, there were a few "loose" girls, but they were few and far between.

These days, girls (just like guys) seem to want to be "players," and do a whole lot of experimenting--even without having any feeling for the guy they're with. Like you said, many girls think nothing of watching porn--even with a one-night stand. A few of our neighbors actually do work as exotic dancers--they say it's for the money only--that they won't do it for long.

I have three daughters, and each of them has been pretty sensible about things--but sometimes I am shocked when they have a "boyfriend" and it only lasts for 4 days or something. That, to me, is shallow of both parties--and not thinking too clearly.

Answer 4

I think you have it backward. Women have come a long way in terms of liberation over the past 50 years. Women from your grandmother's generation were largely subservient to their husbands. Today, a much larger percentage of women have college degrees and can support themselves. Look at the number of women doctors, lawyers and politicians. We even have a female speaker of the house and may have a female presidential nominee in two years.

As far as the porn thing, I don't think that is the norm. It represents a small, twisted subset of the population.

Answer 5

Women have changed over the years. They wanted more freedoms and have gotten them. With that is a change in culture and desires. I wish some things were the same but I also love how women can do what they want without others dictating to them.

Answer 6

women now have greater roles than interior the previous. they have moved from the interior maximum sphere of the homestead into the wide-unfold public sphere by using working. Homemakers have been undervalued and nonetheless are in my opinion so women felt they necessary to artwork outdoors the homestead to experience empowered. IMO the two a homemaker or a individual who's employed must be valued. this could comprise the two adult males and ladies who chosen to try this.

Answer 7

Really it that they have not, they've only shown it in a more public place. Girls have always been "dirty" like that but with todays standards it's okay to show that.

Now women are changing, they're working outside of the homes and do a lot of things that guys use to do, although they shouldn't. mostly because the stress is lowering their life expectancy.

Answer 8

Certainly there has been a changin in the last 60 years in the tolerance of women for openly displayed sexuality. I don't know how much of this is to "please" men...remember, even 60 years ago, women "pleased" men by openly allowing themselves to be beaten...Similarly, note that a big push of 1960s and 70s feminism was to provide women with the right to speak openly about their own sexual desires, and to, in fact, demand that they be fulfilled.

So I think there has been a change, but I don't think it is to "please men." I think that women are still (wrongly) expected to please men, but that they were expected to do so 60 years ago and 600 years ago.

Answer 9

Not much..... We are still the "man" of the house. We still take care of the family. Without us, past, or present the world would be a drunken craze. We will always be the RULERS

Answer 10

All things change over time. Men, woman, boy and girls....everyone and everything. In many, many ways.