i'm 21, and have had a boyfriend pretty much since i was able to start dating. i'm with my boyfriend of two years, and sometimes imagine when he goes down on me that it's a girl down there instead of him. Trust me i like having sex with men, but sometimes wonder what a woman would be like. i can olny imagine myself with certain types of women though, does this make me a lesbian or by?
2007-01-16 10:02:48 · 33 answers · asked by Jamie Lynn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no it makes you curoius and i think every woman if they are honest have thought about it one ime or anothor.
2007-01-16 10:06:31 · answer #1 · answered by jessica b 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Luckily, since you're a girl, you can experiment with these feelings without ending your current relationship [assuming that your boyfriend is like most guys].
If you and your boyfriend enjoy visiting clubs, simply pretend to be more drunk then you actually are and begin to make out with one of the club chicks who catches your fancy and is also into that. If your boyfriend is like most guys, he'll enjoy watching you make out with the other girl and possibly tease you for doing so latter. If, however, he objects, you can always attribute your actions to the fact that you were drunk.
Either way, doing so will allow you to assess your own sexual feelings towards woman and your boyfriends likelihood to accept the fact that you have these feelings without risking your current relationship.
2007-01-16 10:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably just interested. I have friends who are gay and bi, and they're very interested in a person entirely, regardless of the situation. Oh that guys hot, no the girls hotter. They have that strive for both. I would read up alittle bit about it, sorry Id ont have the links handy, and see what information if can give you. You may just be looking for something new and exciting, or you may be bisexual. I would see how long this lasts, and obverse your reaction/attractiont o women in your daily life. Good luck.
2007-01-16 10:11:47 · answer #3 · answered by Run Kalula Run 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should discuss this with him. Most boyfriends are very supportive and understanding. In the meantime, go through a list of your friends with him and he might help suggest one that would be suitable. Then...to ease the transition for you...you should do a threesome with him and the girlfriend he chooses. Since you are familiar with sex with him....it won't be so akward for you. I'm sure he'll be happy to help.
2007-01-16 10:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
These thoughts do not make you a lesbian. They make you bi-curious.
Tell your boyfriend about your desires. He may get turned on by the idea and you can experiment together. Most guys are turned on by the thought of their gf with another woman.
Good luck :-)
2007-01-16 10:06:50 · answer #5 · answered by Great Dane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're normal.
I think everyone has a stray thought every once in a while about what it "might" be like with the same sex even though they would never ever act on it. Just like people fantasize about other things: rape fantasies, bondage, orgies, etc.
Doesn't mean you are gonna do it.
2007-01-16 10:07:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may be bi but you have to act out on it. Go out to meet women or whatever. Don't cheat on your dude cause you don't want him messing with other girls. Your 21 and a lot of life in front of you so go find your self I gues.
It's Bi as in Bisexual not by.
2007-01-16 10:09:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thoughts alone do not make you bi or gay, only your actions do. If you decide to try sex with a girl and you like it and decide to continue having sex with her and your boyfriend you are bi, if you choose her only your gay, and if you stay with men and this was a one time experiment, your straight. But as long as you are comfortable with your choice is all you should be worried about.
2007-01-16 10:07:47 · answer #8 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, it makes you curious and this is normal in all ages of girls and women. If you talk to your b.f. you may be granted permission to act on this feeling to try it out but iof you are truly devoted to this person you wont do it, however, like i said before you are perfectly normal.
I have had many thoughts like this, never hardkore acted on them but have had my fair share of girls, never sex though.
I say if youare single and curious, LIVE IT UP!
2007-01-16 10:08:38 · answer #9 · answered by I_caught_fire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i wouldnt think it would make you a lesbian or Bi. I think it is being just curious of the possibilities regarding sexual encounters. I think with time and exploring your sexual being you will understand yourself and psyche better. Have fun, explore! Be safe!
2007-01-16 10:07:41 · answer #10 · answered by Tropicalboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I've never had thoughts of being with my own kind so I guess that makes me straight and you something else. But I don't know exactly what label or why you need one.
2007-01-16 10:08:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋