I asked this in Marriage and Divorce and only got 2 answers???
I've been married almost 2 years now. I don't feel as close to my wife and I don't think she loves or likes me very much. I love her but I don't like her very much. We don't have a typical marriage where you show emotion and intimacy. I've always wanted that but unfortunatley thats not happening......
2007-01-16 10:01:30 · 20 answers · asked by dragonshark1971 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is something you need to talk about with her. If you cannot do this on your own I suggest that you find a marriage counselor.
After two years of marriage, the bloom may be off the rose, but you should not be stuck in this kind of rut. Chances are she's not very happy about the situation either. You may have married the wrong person for whatever reason and you are just finding out now instead of before you got married.
If the two of you really want to, you can work very hard to salvage the situation and build a happy marriage. Too many people simply give up and that's a shame.
You actually got some good advice the last time you asked this question even though you only got two answers.
Good luck and God bless you. You (both) are in my prayers.
2007-01-16 10:04:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that marriages should last a lifetime. The only appropriate reasons to leave a marraige are infedelity and abuse in my humble opinion. When you said your vows you didn't say "unless we get tired of each other in which case, there's always divorce." You made a promise to her. While, I don't think you should be miserable for the rest of your life. You should at least try to make it work. Have you tried pinpointing what changed? Did you have children? Money problems? You loved each other deeply at one point or you wouldn't be married. I'm no Dr. Laura but maybe you need to communicate more. Actually, try reading the 5 Love Languages. I think it's a really valuable book that will truly help you reach your relationship goals. I know sometimes it just doesn't work out but for God's sake, please try.
2007-01-16 18:08:58 · answer #2 · answered by iam_simplysara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One rule of life is to be happy and it's OK to be happy. You may love your wife, but you are not in love with her nor is she in love with you. That is the nature of your home environment. What you have always wanted but never asked has gotten you nowhere. If you have asked, then it is not in her makeup to give it to you. A marriage without emotion or intimacy also lacks communication. You both deserve to be happy, however, your mutual choice to marry each other was not a good one. You don't even make good friends. I think it is clear that you both deserve to be happy, but together it is not going to happen.
2007-01-16 18:14:18 · answer #3 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not every marriage is like that. Stay with this though. Try going out on some romantic dates, go to the movies, have some fun with her. If you want to show emtion and intimacy you got to have some fun. stay up late watching movies together cuddled together, and stay up late in bed just talking to each other. But really a marriage isn't over until communication ends.
2007-01-16 18:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by blmr0123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First question is Are you happy? If you answer no then its time to get a divorce or at least seperate to see where that takes your feelings!! No one should be in something that makes them unhappy!! You should be with someone you can't live without!! Someone you can't wait to get home to!! Not dreading going home!! You may love her because you married her and thats an ideal in your head but if you feel you don't like her get out while you can still be friends!! Good luck!!
2007-01-16 18:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by one_redneckmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your not happy and neither is she then you guys should maybe see a marriage counselor or maybe talk about separating and see if that's what you both want its never good to be in an unhappy relationship. i have been married for 7 years and i love my hubby today just as much if not more then i did when we first met. but whatever you choose to do i wish you the best of luck :)
2007-01-16 18:08:08 · answer #6 · answered by me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may love each other but you weren't really in love with each other. If you are not in love in the first place then you didn't have a good relationship to begin with and growing apart instead of closer is happens......
2007-01-16 18:11:43 · answer #7 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with her. you never know.... she might be feeling the same way. thats what happens with these marriage situations alot. you talk and end up growing closer. marriage isnt just about intimacy. its having a best friend knowing theyll be with you til teh end and sharing secrets nobody has to know about. being your self and them loving you for it. so talk to her.:)
2007-01-16 18:08:57 · answer #8 · answered by rlum0606 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce! If you and her are not happy there is no reason to stay together any longer! A marrage is a togetherness/partnership and it sounds like you do not have either. Make yourself happy and get out
2007-01-16 18:05:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that your marriage isn't working out. How about trying marriage counseling?
2007-01-16 18:08:27 · answer #10 · answered by lyndsie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋