He's 24 and I'm 21. We have been dating excusivly for four months. I have meet all his friends and family. And his family refers to me as his girlfriend. But a little over a month ago he stated he was not ready to put the girlfriend/boyfriend label on us. He said it will most likely eventually lead into that and he loves spending time with me. He's a super nice guy. But would you date someone for four months if you didn't see it going somewhere?
2007-01-16 09:59:09 · 27 answers · asked by alaska78 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are the only person who can truly answer this.....
if you want more and he knows how you feel and he does not want more than move on
2007-01-16 10:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by iloeta1164 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 months is not very long. You both are still young and you have a long journey in life and lot's of people to meet. Do not be in a hurry. Enjoy life, it's too short! Remember Love is not a feeling it's a commitment. Feelings wear off after awhile. I would talk to him so that you are clear that he is "commited" to you so that you can feel secure. Nobody knows what the future holds, but i would say if he is a nice guy and he is willing to commit, then "go for it" and don't worry about the "label-girlfriend". 'Enjoy your time together.
2007-01-16 18:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by Flaca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
It sounds like he is really interested in you. Perhaps he just wants to take some more time. Some people need a LOT of reassurance before they make a final commitment.
If you like spending time with him, too, just relax. It can't hurt either of you to enjoy the relationship.
Permanent decisions can always be made later. Once they are made, however, they are hard to change.
2007-01-16 18:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by flywho 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boyfriend/Girlfriend is just as you say, 'a label'. Who needs a label for a relationship unless its marriage? I think you have legitimate concerns, but I believe that he is just being mature and making sure things will go good for both of you in the future.
Mark
2007-01-16 18:04:14 · answer #4 · answered by Mark C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello "Alaska,"
While I can't speak to your man individually, I'll speak of my own experience. When I first started dating my wife 10 years ago. (Oh my, has it been that long???) I was also against the use of "titles." Personally, I didn't like whatever expectations they brought with them. It was she that finally gave our relationship a name.
As to where it's going...I'm of the mindset to not waste my time. I wanted to find a quality spouse, and dated with that in mind. I didn't want to waste time with a fling or short term relationship...what if you miss your quality mate when you're wasting time with a for-the-moment kind of person.
I also think people, in general, should wait until their older to get married. 25 comes to mind as a good age. You've sort of settled down to know what you really want.
One final tip: Don't settle. It's your life, pick a mate you're crazy about. If it's your current man, great...if not you've got to make the call.
Good luck in whatever you decide to do.
VoR
2007-01-16 18:11:24 · answer #5 · answered by Voice_Of_Reason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess he is just uncomfortable with the title but you are his girlfriend. Some guys dont call their refer to their girlfriends as "this is my girlfriend". If he has been with you for this long that he does see it going somewhere, but if you have a problem with this you should talk to him about it and tell you how you feel.
2007-01-16 18:04:57 · answer #6 · answered by gotansas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have fun, and if you're having sex, be monogamous! But this is the best time of your life to have fun, meet new people, hang out.
It may be too early for the boy/girl friend label, so don't expect a marriage proposal. HOWEVER, if you are having sex and he doesn't commit to being monogamous, (1) quit having sex with him, and (2) check out new horizons.
2007-01-16 18:03:46 · answer #7 · answered by marianne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm surprised that at 24 years old he still uses that "don't want to put a label on our relationship" thing. If you want him to be your boyfriend, let him know. If he doesn't want that then he seems to just be trying to be with you but still have the opportunity to NOT be with you if he so chooses... Be careful with this one. He might just be afraid to commit.
2007-01-16 18:03:29 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ariel♥ish♥ness♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask yourself....would I have the chance of meeting another "super nice" guy like him? Probably not. So why upset the applecart over a label.
We guy's don't like to feel rushed....contrary to popular belief...alot of us like to think before we make decisions. Words and labels don't have as much importance as feelings.
2007-01-16 18:04:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think hes more interesting in having fun. In that case then maybe its not worth your time. If I were you I would keep continuing with the relation but have alot of FUN if he still feels that way in a month or two then its time to move on.
2007-01-16 18:03:54 · answer #10 · answered by Je vous aime. ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now you are young enjoy life. IF you were older I would be concerned about do i see a future. You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find the prince! Good luck!
2007-01-16 18:02:53 · answer #11 · answered by reptmd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋