What should I say? I am 29 years old, and have no clue what to say to bf.?

Question

WE have not talked in a week, he's pissed off at me for walking away from him last week.
I Have been sick to my stomach ever since, have nothing to apolizise for, but no idea what to say to him.
I don't want to look like i am kissing his backside, but I can't stand not knowing what to say or do.

Altough you have no idea what the fight is about , what do you think you would say to him, to let them know that you don't want things to be over, but you realize that maybe you both need time apart, with the promise that it is ONLY going to be time apart, and nothing more.

PLEASE, I NEED SUGGESTIONS, I AM SUPPOSED TO CALL HIM BACK IN 10 MINUTES.

HE IS THE ONE MAD AT ME, I am as someone else said, sometimes the door mat.
I just don't know, I love him, but am finding it to not be enough.

Ok, details.
Last Monday I offered to make dinner and take it up to his house.
Made two kinds of things, which took me 3 1/2 hours to cook and clean up after.
I made most of it, but didn't finish it.
I went up to the house, and made the comment, "i should have called and told you to put a pot of water on to boil"
he right away, said 'well, how was i supposed to know, i thought you had everything done" i said, 'that's why i said, i should have called you"
he started to get huffy with me, and i said "do you want me to leave"
He said fu@%, and walked into the living room, with his daughter and her friend.
I was mad, upset, and I gathered the food and left with my daughter.
I tried to e-mail him the next day, and he said 'too much stress, need to leave things alone for now'
I have not made any other attempts until now to contact him.
NOW YOU KNOW, WHAT SHOULD I SAY.

Answer 1

omg you just wrote the story of my life PLEASE read my questions lol you will feel soo much better then u do i havent spoken to my bf of 3 yrs in a week either if i were you i would say hi we need to talk about last week so whenever your not too busy give me a call so we could meet up. Trust me DO NOT DO TALK OVER THE PHONE or text chances are one of you will hang up on the other..

You know what it is Angel after all this time I reAlized that its a vicious cycle if you let them get away with it in the beginning then it will happen over and over I am younger then you but trust me In this i am a pr0 as sad as it is if you read all of the questions ive asked you will see same $hit diff day and hes never gonna change they act like jerks like they dont appreciate us dont care if were there with them or not cuz of course they could be with the boys instead and we eat their $hit Me personally ive been thru much more then the average so it made me stronger of a women but when it comes to him i feel weak and i know that it is wrong god knows what i would do for that jrk so yeh its easy for these people to say JUST LEAVE AND when your done bein a doormat bla bla bla easier to judge from outside the box then when ur heart is in the mix and it hurts to just think to never be wit them or even worse them be without you and wit someone else well i wish you the best and i hope he realizes what hes got til its gone b4 its too late

Answer 2

Time apart to a guy sounds like your breaking up with him to be with someone else. The best thing to do it talk it out and apologize for not listening to him. He got mad because you walked away from the conversation but didn't know that you just were trying to avoid escalating the situation. Sometimes it good to walk away and for each person to calm down. I wouldn't suggest time apart, just maybe a day or so and then you two sit down and have a heart to heart. I know you can do this, you've explained it so well on here. Good Luck

Answer 3

A week ? Ouch. Depending on what the fight was about would determine what to say. Perhaps you could call and ask to have a face to face conversation about that very subject - although with the realization that the need for time apart, when you've already had a week, seems to mean things are not going to last ...

Answer 4

Just tell him you don't want to fight about it, but you don't think you did anything wrong. Ask him what he wants you to do. It will either be something you are willing to do are not. You don't need to take time apart that's crap. You need to work out your problem or every-time something comes up big or small someone will want to take time apart. I know what I am talking about I was married to my husband for 18 1?2 years until he died back in October. Sometimes you just have to know you disagree about things but love each other enough to just disagree and move on.

Answer 5

Be honest, speak your mind and tell him how you really feel. If you want to spend time apart, take it but tell him that's what you're doing. Just let him know that you are not apologizing but you just needed to cool down. Stand your ground and don't promise that after your time apart you'll get back together, you might feel differently after a while. Good luck.

Answer 6

Call him up and tell him you have been feeling terrible and miss him, but maybe since you can't seem to see eye to eye or get along on this one point you should spend a short time apart to think about things and decide what you want to do next with your relationship.

Answer 7

Just say you are sorry and you are ready to get past this. If he opens up tell him how you feel about what ever the fight was about. Don't make a big deal about it, or you two will fall out again.
Maybe, he is ready to kiss and make up. Good luck.

Answer 8

just tell him that you needed to walk away and clear your head and cool off before you said something that you would regret. Tell him you stil love him and want to work this fight out by talking about it like mature adults, not acting childish and ignoring eachother..and using the word "we" when talking about things instead of "you" or "I" will keep from shifting the blame to either of you individually

Answer 9

Tell him how you are feeling! Time apart probably won't solve anything. You need to talk about this. Tell him that you don't understand why he's upset and that you want to work this out. Hopefully he'll be willing to talk about it. Good luck!

Answer 10

i think that you should just tell him what is on your mind, you dont have to apologise but you could explain why you did it to make him understand you abit, maybe that is why he is mad, he doesnt understand where he stands in your life, just let him know that you need time apart that things are just getting to heated, not that you want to not see him but just time for yourself. Good luck