who should be able to spank my kids. my friends there grandparents?

Answer 1

Anyone with a "true connection" to that child, meaning someone who loves that child with all their heart. Places their needs above all else, and is spanking NOT because "they deserve it" but to truly teach them right from wrong. Someone who is spanking 100% for the child's need and not their frustration.

In a nutshell, this usually, but not always eliminates step parents, teachers, baby sitters. It could also eliminate anyone who doesn't fit the above description. Usually only moms and dads should spank, but if they feel grand parents, aunts, uncles, god parents are worthy, and trusted enough, then it's OK.

It's all a case by case basis

Good Luck

Answer 2

If you are present, then you should be the one doing the spanking. However, as a grandparent myself, I have been known to spank one of my grandchildren when their parent was there but I babysit them a lot and feel it's O.K. I must tell you though, it has only happened about 2 times and just little swats on the behind. With all the padding, I doubt they even felt it. If you leave your child with a sitter you should talk to them about how they discipline or if they feel they have the right to spank when you are not there. I would think most of the time when your friends are around, you are around, which means you can do the spanking and they shouldn't. But generally, the disciplinarian should only be the parents or caregivers.

Answer 3

I'm not a big advocate of spanking, but with a sometimes unruly 2 1/2 year old boy who lately likes to do the exact opposite of what I ask and thinks it's funny, time-outs don't always work. I'll be honest, I don't even like it when my husband does it, even if I feel he had no other option given the situation. If either of my sons grandparents were ever caught doing it, or anyone else who cares for him, I would have a fit. I know that I use it as an absolute last resort, and even then it's not very hard. But there's no way to trust how other people will approach spanking.

Answer 4

Well usually i believe that only the parents can spank their kids but i guess if their getting baby sat anyone one who you give permission to do it. Hopefully they use good judgement a to when a spanking should be issued. But if your around don't let anyone spank your kids without asking you first their not the childs parent and you and your partner are the only ones who can make the call as to how you descipline your kids.

Answer 5

No one should parent your child but you. They are your responsibility and are a reflection of your parenting skills.

Teach your children social etiquette and you won't feel it necessary to consider authorising someone to spank your child.

At the end of the day spanking does absolutely nothing but let the adult vent their feelings. If you feel you have to spank a child you have lost the battle already.

I don't understand why you are even considering this issue. Think about it. No one should lay a hand on your child let alone be condoned for doing so.

Answer 6

I'm on the "whoever you give permission to" bandwagon. Especially if someone else is watching them, it's more effective for the discipline to be given when the misbehavior is committed, not hours later when the parents return. Also, if you have someone babysit on a regular basis (family members though, I wouldn't recommend this for teen sitters), receiving punishment from that person will set the boundries for the child with that person. (So they know they can't walk all over Grandma just because you're not there, for instance.)

We had an open punishment policy in my family while I was growing up, and it didn't hurt any of us as kids or adults.

Answer 7

Spanking should be left to the parents' descretion. However, personally I feel when a parent spanks a child its a loss of control on the adult's part. There are much more effective ways to discipline a small child. If you watch a few of the nanny TV shows, you will never see them encourage spanking and they have some real pint size terrors to deal with.

Answer 8

YOU and only YOU and of course your spouse. No one else has the right to spank your children. If your friends or their grandparents are babysitting let them know how you would like your children to be disciplined in your absence. Allowing someone else to spank your children only leads to trouble and confusion for your kids.

Answer 9

I spank VERY rarely, so the only people who will spank my children are my husband and me. If there is a problem elsewhere (school, another person's house), they can call and I will deal with the situation.

Answer 10

No one should be spanking your kids. If you give other people permission to hit your kids, your kids will have no sense of protection from the world. You are basically telling them that you will let anyone hurt them. Punishment needs to be dealt out by parents. I wouldn't recommend spanking though. There are other effective ways to punish your children.

If someone has a problem with something your child has done, they need to come to you so that you may take appropriate measures. It is automatically considered child abuse or battery if anyone other than the childs parents hit them.