My mother tries hard to be a good mother but she is very controlling, gives me no space, and is very nozy not to mention stubborn and believes she knows everythin... i'm 19 and I dorm at a college far from home because i'm tired of her but she still finds ways to get to me like she called the cops and reported me missing because I wasn't in my room at 11... When I' home I spend my time defying my mother's rules because they're created just to control me. My grandfather gave me a car and she said that I can't have it yet... she's using it to control me. I do what she says then she might give it to me...
My father is the exact opposite of her and is paying child support out of his as.s for me and my brother because my mothers greedy not to mention the money's to support the child... so why when I need money, doesn't she give it to me? It'll be for food sometimes!
I don't want to upset her.She does treat us well sometimes but shes doing everything wrong.Should I move out? Advice pleze
2007-01-16 09:19:40 · 10 answers · asked by X Anonymous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Me and my father are really close and the only reason he's the opposite of my mother is because he knows i'm 19 and that i'm practically an adult. He gives me my space and privacy and I usually don't break his rules because I know they're set for a reason and not to control me.
2007-01-16 09:41:47 · update #1
You are 19. Get financial aid and move on to the campus.
2007-01-16 09:23:25 · answer #1 · answered by Grown Lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is calling the cops because you are not in your room by 11:00 there is a problem. you are an adult now, in a dorm, pretty much living on your own. and, why is your dad still paying child support when you are 19? don't get that either.
I'd say talk to your mom about it- if she doesn't see your point of it, might be time to move in with dad... or, you are an adult now, maybe you could get a job and when college is done for the semester, maybe get an apartment with some friends or something..
to have a mom calling and say you are missing when you are not in your dorm room by 11:00... thats a little strange.
2007-01-19 18:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello!!!! You are 19!!! Why don't you ask your dad and your mom to both help you pay for your college expenses and you get a job for additional money that you might need. You think your mom is controlling? She is! She's still treating you like a little child, but if you don't step up to the plate, earn some money, and emancipate yourself...you're acting like a child, and she will still keep calling the shots.
2007-01-16 17:27:16 · answer #3 · answered by LuckyEddie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are over 18, so can probably live where you choose. Too bad that car is getting in the middle of things.
Your mom may be the way she is because your dad is the opposite--he may not worry at all about harm coming to you. She would then feel that she needed to compensate for his irresponsibility.
I do hope things work out so that you can once again feel comfortable with each of your parents.
2007-01-16 17:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she doesn't see how controlling she is being. Maybe you need to sit down and have a heart to heart with her. Tell her that you love her and you know that she loves you but that you are 19 years old, not 16. And you need to be treated like an adult and given some space.
2007-01-16 17:25:15 · answer #5 · answered by Kristi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're really not going to listen because from your question you've made up your mind you want to live where you're in charge.
One day you'll look back and realize your mother was doing the job she got on the day you were born.
Good luck.
2007-01-16 17:27:39 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her person to person. If you can have a talk where each of you can explain what is the problem and why you both do like you do then you both will understand. Look at things from each other perspectives and what each of you are going through.
2007-01-16 17:25:45 · answer #7 · answered by ronnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are so grown up and know it all -get a job, save up money and move into your own place then you can see if you can get along with your Mom. Remember theres a reason you live with Mom and not Dad -do you know what it is?
2007-01-16 17:27:00 · answer #8 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't ask your mom for anything. Get a job and try to get your own place. Ask your dad for help when you need it.
2007-01-16 17:27:46 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Pleo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I think you should move with your father........
2007-01-16 17:28:04 · answer #10 · answered by castorjoyce 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋