I have been married for 5 years and I though I thought we were happy he informed me I have been depressed for over a year. .We had lost our house and he had lost a job but then got another one. He has never been good with money and has always liked a expensive lifestyle . He was cought by me leaveing inapropitate comments on myspace . He is also wanting to go out more he works with mostly girls so thats who he mainly hangs out with but he has never really had a lot of guy friends anyway. He is also really into his clothes he always has been but over the past few years it has escalated. We have 2 kids and I love him. He always tells me the same but sometimes it seems like a lot of phony lip service because all of his actions point the other way then I feel more depressed should I just belive he loves me or continue to wonder?
2007-01-16 09:09:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Try taking good care of yourself. Go and see your internal meds doc or ob/gyn and get a full work up and make sure that all of your hormone levels are where they should be. Then start doing things to make yourself feel better about yourself. When you are happy with yourself then others will enjoy being around with you.
It certainly sounds like your hubby is trying to wander. In view of this you should be careful. Don't cater to his clothing. Let him tend to them himself if you truly suspect he is wandering.
If you are at home depressed it isn't good for any of you. Try to get some help darlin' ; for your sake and your kids.
Also, if you keep acting like he is doing something when he hasn't actually stepped out of bounds you will only push him to it.
He is acting like a child now and the more that you harp on it and try to take it away the more he will cling and sneak around just to satisfy his ego.
2007-01-16 09:22:18 · answer #1 · answered by kane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have answered the question yourself... he's egocentric... and vain... you were a trphy... and now with the tarnish of 2 kids and 5 years he's looking for greener pastures... He sounds like a man who should have never married... you want the answer... ask him out on a real date... ask him what has changed aside from creating history and two beautiful children... I have said this befre... you teach people how to treat you... sounds like yo want to stay... but you can't make him happy... we govern our own emotions... and if he wants to be happy... he will be... all you can really do at this point is to stand up and tell him that you deserve to be happy too... and that you will make a concentrated effort to be happy if he does the same... you folks need to get counselling...
2007-01-16 09:21:54 · answer #2 · answered by alex b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a man and should be providing for his family. If he isn't(losing the house) and living an expensive lifestyle he is probably not happy with you or he would care more. Thats how I would look at it if I had a family to take care of.
2007-01-16 09:17:28 · answer #3 · answered by Litldragon67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out together more with him and see if his interest is with you or the rest of the senery.
2007-01-16 09:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to read this article http://www.healthadel.com/articles/9/1/Depression-Treatments/Page1.html i found will be useful also has info on different treatments.
2007-01-16 09:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by gooner1212 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit him down and ask him how he feels.
2007-01-16 09:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by Grown Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋