I was going out with a girl 3 years ago and we had a really good time together for a while. After a year of going out we broke and went our seperate ways. She got another boyfriend and I starting going clubing with my friends and hanging out with girls alot . Im 22 years old right now. The girl That I broke up with is now single again and she wants to start hanging out with me again. I don't feel like hanging out with her but sometimes I do.I want to be in a relationship with her! but at the same time I don't. What should I say to her. please please help!!!!
2007-01-16 09:07:06 · 16 answers · asked by Evtm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-01-16 09:41:39 · update #1
Don't say anything until you've figured out how you're feeling, and why. Do you want her because she was unavailable, and now that she is you have doubts?Either way be honest and take things slowly. If she tries to rush things, bring it back to your comfort level, but keep communictions open and honest. It's natural to be scared in the beginning, and wonder what you are getting into. Maybe that was why you lost her once?Be trustworthy as well, call when you say you will, and don't stand her up.Also request the same of her. No one likes game playing in a relationship.
2007-01-16 09:15:25 · answer #1 · answered by onebusy_b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to know what you want. You're confused right now. Go on a few dates with her to see if you guys can start over again. Tell her that you guys could go out together but as friends and that you don't know if you still feel the same about her.
2007-01-16 17:12:20 · answer #2 · answered by nelson28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you want her or you don't. It's not like you're married. Go out with her, have some "fun", and get it out of your system. It's like when you are really hor ny for a girl and then you realize all you REALLY need is a solid pounding from rosie-palm and her 5 lucky friends and then you feel better. So, maybe you just need to get it out of your system. After having her for awhile you'll know if it was just a need or if you really were just wanting a piece.
2007-01-16 17:12:09 · answer #3 · answered by roshambo76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her no, you sounds like your not ready to be in a relationship right now. I think you should give it more time. Plus, you are only 22, your still young, enjoy it while you can.
2007-01-16 17:10:04 · answer #4 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well figure out what you want then tell her. Right now you should tell you need a little time cause youre not sure.
2007-01-16 17:12:50 · answer #5 · answered by leyanne7676 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to figure out what you want, she dumped you and now she wants you back, what if she dumps you again? Have you had other relationships since she dumped you? are you happy without her?
2007-01-16 17:12:02 · answer #6 · answered by drunken_monkey1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say u want to be friends. if u want to be in a relationship with her then ur gonna have that same situation again.
2007-01-16 17:11:53 · answer #7 · answered by alextapurpleyu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally agree with robin_b963 - I was just about to give the same answer
2007-01-16 17:11:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make sure she knows that you just want to be friends and then see what happens from there!
2007-01-16 17:10:00 · answer #9 · answered by teacuptiff86042002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about "friends" ... or maybe FWB ... "friends with benefits". You don't have to have an exclusive relationship.
2007-01-16 17:10:49 · answer #10 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋