We don't have any problems in our relationship but I love him so much and I'm afraid of getting me heart broken. This is my first real relationship. He told me that it gets on his nerves when I'm always worrying.
2007-01-16 08:57:03 · 14 answers · asked by christy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ally, you can't make him love you - it just has to happen. Therefore, stop worrying. Believe me, if you keep getting on his nerves you are only increasing the odds that he will leave you. Just enjoy what you have now and worry about tomorrow when it comes.
2007-01-16 09:01:28 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot place your happiness, self worth as a person and mental health on any realtionship, and your heart will get broken in life...that's part of life.
Does he do things that would make you think he's going to cut out? If not, have faith that things will last. But you need to be ready for the day when a break up might come.
I used to be this same way and it got to the point that I would do things totally out of characheter becasue I thought this would 'save the relationship'. Later after dating all of hell's minions I realized that this is not healthy and I was falling into bad relationship habitst that were doing more harm than good.
When I finally realized this and set boundaries for myself and realized that anyone I had to date would need to understand this, I was more happy and had better relationships.
Like I said in the begining, you cannot place your happiness on being with some one and you need to be prepared that things might not work out. But as one who has been around the dating block many times (good and bad) and who is now happily married, you have to be happy with yourself, and be able to find contentment in whatever situation you find yourself in. Being with someone and worrying he will leave will not make you happy.
2007-01-16 17:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by East of Eden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart if you dont stop saying this to him then he is going to leave. Your worrying is only going to either push him away or into the arms of another and im quite sure you dont want that to happen. So be easy and calm down. U have a good guy, so keep him cause there are not that many left n the world. Good luck!
2007-01-16 17:02:41 · answer #3 · answered by TASHA J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to relax and realize that you have him now and that's all that should matter. Otherwise your going to waste your time w/ him worrying. Worrying about losing him could lead to irrational jealousy and many other problems down the line.
Stop and think about what you have and how good you have it. Be thankful for your relationship and just enjoy it, d a m n i t!
2007-01-16 17:01:32 · answer #4 · answered by Niko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's right. Unless you get some self-esteem and confidence, you are going to "worry" yourself right out of this relationship. Guys really don't go for that ... at least guys that are worth dating don't like that kind of emotional whining and clingyness.
It sounds like you have a great deal of insecurities. Talk with a trusted adult about this situation.
2007-01-16 17:01:41 · answer #5 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is stop worrying. The best way to drive him away from you is to worry about him leaving. You are giving power and energy to something you don't want to happen, which means it will happen.
Plus - it's not him - it's you - what are you afraid of?
FP
2007-01-16 17:00:24 · answer #6 · answered by F. Perdurabo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being insecure. He knows if you are worrying about him leaving you and this will make him wanna leave you because you are being insecure. Just relax and chill out a bit and make him worry about you a bit.
2007-01-16 17:02:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being insecure, its only going to push him away. If the relationship is fine then enjoy it instead of waiting for him to break up with you.
2007-01-16 17:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop worrying. if you really feel like he's going to leave you then end the relationship. stop worrying.
2007-01-16 17:00:43 · answer #9 · answered by c s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to lose him with your worrying. Get some counselling.
2007-01-16 17:00:02 · answer #10 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋