okay here's the deal. I just had my new baby, and then my boyfriend dumps me! Now thats the 3rd time that has happened. The same thing: "I love you", sex, "Were we safe?", "Yes", get pregnant, "I'll stay with you", delivery room, out comes baby, "I'm sorry this is too much", get dumped. No I'm not a slut or a hoe, or shallow. I'm just stupid enough to believe them. I want a man who say by me with a baby. Boys please be that man!
2007-01-16 08:36:44 · 23 answers · asked by Kristine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you must be extremely fertile....
Go on birth control, use condoms, use spermicide and if you feel the need take the day after pill. You obviously aren't being safe enough if you have gotten pregnant 3 times.
I don't believe you are a slut at all. Some guys lie and women, being the romantics we are, always believe them when they say I love you. I say next time, hold out on the sex untill your wedding night. This way you know they want to be with you no matter what. If you don't want to wait till marriage I would say when new relationship gets to the point of "I love you" and getting to the sex. Have a serious sit down with him explaining to him how fertile you are and that there is a chance you could get pregnant. Let him decide before you get pregnant if he would stay with you or not.
I know you asked for guys only and I'm not a guy but I hope this advice helped...
best of luck!
2007-01-16 08:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you both honestly make sure that it was safe. Maybe birth control should have been used for at least the second and third guy. Also, do all three babies live with you? The babies might scare the guys into thinking that they will have to be responsible fathers when they are honestly not ready. If they truly did want more then just the love making, then they would have probably proposed before the baby was born. You are not stupid for beleiving them, but you should definately look into birth control since the guys are obviously lying or something is not working. There are plenty of guys that will stay with you, but they are usually older and don't always have the best personality. Keep your head up, love the heck out of your little babies as they are probably the most important things in your life, and don't let the past guys bring you down too much.
2007-01-16 08:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by Water weasels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhhh...actually....you have 3 kids by 3 differnt men, none of whom you were married to. That is pretty much the definition of a ****. How about taking some responsibility for the birth control instead of relying solely on the guy. Maybe you should have learned a lesson after the first time....or maybe after the second time....or hopefully after this third time. You keep picking these guys, so it's your fault. I assume we will all now be footing the bll for these illegitimate children. Way to go! There are men who stay with their baby's mother...they are called husbands. Try the marriage thing first, genius.
2007-01-16 08:55:20 · answer #3 · answered by FelixtheCat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, no need to be embarrassed! You made an honest inquery and he made a very honest answer - good on both of you! Yeah, I know you are going to feel put-out, but you did not realize he was in a relationship. But - hey - not many guys will be outgoing enough to admit they would like to see you if they were single. And in todays relationship, at some point the odds are that he will be back on the market and he knows you fancy him, so no loss there either. Brighten up there - he does think highly of you and does consider you a fit mate in either sense, he just is otherwise involved. Be a brave girl and continue on as his friend. Maybe he will be available later, but maybe not - at least you know he was interested in you and most friends-who-want-more do not get that. Count yourself lucky and just do your best to enjoy his company - the embarrassment will fade in time.
2016-05-25 03:08:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many guys have you been with? 10? 20? 30? over 50?
What is done has already been done.
My advice to you: If you want a typical romatic relationship where a guy will love you deeply enough, not just through the sheet but through his heart & soul, you have to be considered & respectful. Yes, guys always try to hit it if you spread them, they think that you are easy and simple-minded but they will respect you more if you only spread them for a special Mr. Right.
The general rule is if the guy knows that a girl has been with too many guys, he will think that he is just one of the stastical number to her and nothing more. Then, he will treat her like a toy rather than like his treasure.
2007-01-16 08:53:09 · answer #5 · answered by Infinite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like none of them even proposed marriage, which is generally a Bad Idea when it comes to having unprotected sex. If I understand your question correctly, you're now asking for a man to become involved with you as a single mother of 3 children by 3 different fathers ... an unpleasant relationship to contemplate, as the babies/children will always take priority.
I wish you luck in meeting someone with whom you will "click" and be able to raise your family with ! ^_^
2007-01-16 08:45:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit being an idiot. Use birth control until the boy proves he's a man. Quit having sex with little boys. There are men out there, you just have to look. Good Luck getting these jerk-offs to pay child support.
2007-01-16 08:41:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i,m shore there is a man for you, some guys are a afraid of change and they need a week to think of what is changing i know this father that took off for a week and came back to his wife, i with i could help but i don,t know you, but i would help if i was in your town but i hope you are able to take care of the kid, i don,t even know how old you are so that can,t work but i,m shore some guy will come up to the plate and help raze the baby if not then there is adoption but it,s better to keep the child in the family tree. also breast makes the brain develop the brain cells and with out breast milk make the baby have brain damage.
2007-01-16 08:53:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can only advise you to get right with yourself. Then get into a relationship.
I had a girl do the exact opposite of what you have been through. She said "I love you" the sex then the pregnancy. I did all I could to help her and support her. She dumped me in less than a week.
Get right with yourself first.
2007-01-16 08:43:34 · answer #9 · answered by talons_pryde2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are your parents!? Seriously though you can not be this gullible. You need to worry about your baby and make sure he/she doesn't wind up in your situation. You ask BOYS be that MAN. Your asking the wrong people the wrong question. You need to get your sh... together before you worry about another f'd up relationship. Once you do that then go looking for a daddy for your baby.
2007-01-16 08:46:25 · answer #10 · answered by major b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋