i was seeing this guy for 5 months and had a crush on him for over a year prior to us seeing each other. he has no kids I have 3. we are the same age. we had a great realtionship except that I always felt like I didn't measure up cause he wanted a family but one that he started. yet he and I got along so well... lately he has withdrawn from me at a time when I'm going through a lot. I have not placed pressure on him but he all of a sudden doesn't want to be bothered. It really hurt. I really care about him
2007-01-16 08:24:29 · 27 answers · asked by Mary S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Walk away girl - 5 months isn't a very long time, and if he's withdrawing when you need him, he's just not invested in you.
Sorry girl - good luck
2007-01-16 08:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by P_P_K 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do understand that a man with no family, who wants children, will have the urge to make one of his own. Not due to the fact that his spouse already has 1 or more of their own children. That is not always an issue.
What seems to be the problem is the lack of communication. It seems that he is drawn back from you because something or someone is bothering him and he wishes not to converse about it. That is something men do. Worry not. In which, I believe is a bad decision. As his significant other you need to bring this to his attention. Don't talk at him; talk to him. Let him know how you feel and in return be open to hear what he has to say and understand how he feels. A relationship isn't much without communication. You have to consider what he might say or how he might feel. You may have to compromise your thoughts and doings, in order to sway the relationship in the direction it is supposed to go. You may have to sit back and view each other. Take the space he is giving you. Watch.
I pray that the Lord gives you stength where faith gives you hope for the things unseen to come about.
2007-01-16 16:37:26 · answer #2 · answered by Ab 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could be giving you space at the moment since, as you said, you're going through a lot....so that could be a reason why he is withdrawn with you. The only way to find out that is by talking to him . Ask him if he still wants to be in the relationship - it is the clearest way to know what's what and whether or not there are any issues that need resolving.
2007-01-16 16:31:29 · answer #3 · answered by ForeverAnAngel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's not working move on! You have 3 children to think about, as a single-dating mother of 3 myself, no one has time to treat a pouting mate when there are "mommy things" that need to be done. Besides that withdrawl usually turns worse. Focus on your family hun! There will be other men, TRUST ME!
2007-01-16 16:28:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give him a little space, he may be pressured by something else. Don't give up on him. He knew that you had 3 kids yet that did not stop him. why, give up on him now.
2007-01-16 16:31:06 · answer #5 · answered by Rosie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Giving him space is him walking away. Walking away is you doing that. Either way not a good situation but know that you should discuss the situation before making a decision.
Good Luck.
2007-01-16 16:29:43 · answer #6 · answered by voandginger 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well that's a test isn't it? Do you really want someone who isn't there for you when you need them? Isn't that what love is all about?
Give him another chance if you like, but when the chips are down again and he makes himself scarce then I would tell him not to bother to come back.
2007-01-16 16:29:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would relax and give it a couple days,then ask him straight up if he's serious about moving forward? You need to know,and guys get distant and weak when scared and confused.
With kids you have to be sure and cautious,don't let him play you.
2007-01-16 16:36:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask to talk to him serisously and ask him what the problem is. ask him if he feels comfortable with you having three kids, and get it all out. its always good to know the answer to what is bothering u if he says he feels uncomforatable try to work something else or still remain friends, if u care about him that much
2007-01-16 16:30:37 · answer #9 · answered by chicantabonita94 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Continue to give him space this can be a little much for him, prepare yourself for the worst, much love.
2007-01-16 16:28:30 · answer #10 · answered by nina_ross692000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋