How do you know when to give an ex a second chance?

Question

Broken up and promises to change
is there hope for us yet?

Answer 1

Hello sunset...

in order to understand what i am going to post here, you need first to read one answer i posted. You can find it thru my Q&A profile.
After you read that post, read this.

A second chance worth it when, after many conversations, you see this person has overcome his downfall. Of course, you might think that Actions speak louder than words, but if you don't let him act (based on his words) how can you ever know if he changed or not?

If you love him. If you think it worths it to let him back in your life 'cause you trust his intentions to make you happy, just open your doors to him. We are human beings and all our actions are controlled by emotions and feelings. We are not ROBOTS or FINISHED PRODUCTS (as my ex told me that she needed me to be) and that's what makes us special. If we were cold programmed oriented individuals then the whole spectrum of moods and feelings lose sense.

My biggest pain was not to be given a second chance. not to be trusted on my intentions. I changed, and now i look at myself and i have to laugh. I can't believe i waste so much precious time of my relationships looking for a sign of negativity in my fiance to satisfy my insecurities and unfounded jealousy.
That's the only thing i complain about my fiance. She said she loved me like she had never loved anyone but she couldn't give me a second chance. And maybe if she doesn't know, i am still willing to try 'cause i have been able to realize how stupid I was back in the days. Of course, we have been committing to many mistakes, and somehow i feel it's too late for us already (that's what she thinks). And i want to prevent to you of commit the same type of mistakes. A second chance is something like RESET and NEW BEGINNING. Do not give him a second chance just for the sake of let him feel good or to not make you feel yourself like a "heartless b****". Forget everything. You don't need to remind him or remind you what happened 'cause if it's going to happen again... it will. So, keep all the dirty clothes out of the closet. Dump them away. You don't need them. Fresh and new beginning is the key.

TRUST HIS INTENTIONS. That;s all you need. Give him some time. a couple of months. Time enough to make him realize by himself his downfalls. If you feel he is going to make you happy... Let him in. People say that Second Parts were never good (when they talk about movies) but life is not a movie. Movies are a Hollywoodian and twisted presentation of life that NEVER match with reality.

So, don't be affraid. If There Is Love, There Is Hope. If There Is Hope, There Is Will, If There is Will, you both can move a mountain.

Answer 2

This can be really tough depending on how close you were and how long you two were together. If you know him well enough to know if he's actually sincere about things then maybe you should give him another chance. If you love him and he loves you for sure then yeah I'd say go for it. If he's an honest guy and you believe him then give him the 2nd chance, it comes down to whehter or not you want him back or not. But remember if he didnt treat you right theres always other fish in the sea. Do what feels right

Answer 3

You are the only one who knows that. It depends on how much you love him and how much he loves you. If you love him enough to take that risk, then go for it. To find a "true love" is rare and is always worth the fight, but "true love" is a mutual love, so you both have to want it to work. A good question to ask yourself is if you don't try it one more time, will you have regrets.
Being that I am not too sure why you both broke up, if the reason is because he hurt you real bad, you need to find out if he's changed and the only way you'll find out is with time. SO in this case start off as friends and take him back slowly. Let him prove himself to you. But be aware that he might not have changed so make him work hard to prove it to you.

I hope these help. Good luck.

Answer 4

Depends on how well you know the guy and on how much you are willing to take the chance. If he seems sincere enough and you still care for him a lot, then give him a second chance.

Answer 5

that is a very good question..and alot of people will tell you no and that he is your ex for a reason..yes true but people do change..i am in a realtion and my guy and i were having problems and i ask alot of people and they told me to break up with him..yes again they were right but honeslty i know that i did not want to be without this person and he told me that he would change and so far so good..give it a chance and if he is not changing then next time you know better

Answer 6

Here's your options:

A) Stay and be hurt again (it WILL happen again) If you take him back you're telling him that you can forgive him. You've done it once which means you'll do it again the next time he screws up.

or

B) Move on and find someone else who truly loves and respects you.

I'd go with choice B but you have to make your own decision.

Answer 7

Honestly no. that's what they all say...i'll change i promise i won't do it again.Baby i love you. YEAH RIGHT...don't be the dummy in the situation.find you another man that's going to make you happy...otherwise go back to him and you'll hurt again

Answer 8

Depends on what happend,i know i wish my ex woulda gave me another chance.I gave one girl who cheated on me i gave her a second chance

Answer 9

Can I ask you a question...Is the risk worth it?

Answer 10

the promise wont last.