My friends are mostly guys and my boyfriends friends. The problem is that they start to like me if i hang out with them. Then my boyfriend gets parinoid over nothing. And i cant not hang with them b/c that would mean ovoiding my b/f all together. I do tell the guys i dont like them like that so that not the answer. I need solid advice. HELP!
2007-01-16 08:19:18 · 26 answers · asked by newman12992 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
stop flirting with them..that would be the first thing
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2007-01-16 08:22:40 · answer #1 · answered by USMCstingray 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Start making some female friends that you can introduce these guys to. And your boyfriend isn't paranoid over nothing, he has friends who from what you are saying like you. It is a compliment when your friends find your girlfriend or boyfriend attractive, but it can be threatening to know that if they had the chance they would move in on the person you care about. He really needs to tell his buddies to back off a bit. Some guys misinterpret a friendly female as a woman who is interested in them. As long as you firmly let people know you are only interested in your guy, things should start to level off. Don't try to not be friendly, but do try to make sure you aren't flirtatious.
2007-01-16 16:28:01 · answer #2 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a monogamous relationship, why are you hanging out with your boyfriends friends?? Bad Decision. (even if you are hanging out with them while you are with him)
Get some girl friends. What ever the issues are that are keeping you from building relationships with females, you need to overcome them. As a young adult I was the same way, not many girl friends, lots of guy friends (who many times wanted more), and it ALWAYS caused problems with the person I was dating. Males are human just like us and in this day in age when sex is literally everywhere, and it is common to cheat like changing underwear, unfortunately it is a recipe for them to feel insecure.
Now if your boyfriend is just a whiny little twit who doesn't allow you to speak with anyone else or blows his stack that is a different story.
Years ago, I would have said the same thing about my boyfriends friends that they "somehow" wanted more and I didn't understand why...............but my dear, the truth is you are most likely contributing to that situation also.
Get a few close girl friends, trust me I know what I am talking about! Listen to your elders!!!!! :) LOL
2007-01-16 16:31:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have many male friends. Some closer to me than others.
In a friendship with a male the female has to set the standards because males tend to like to break the foundating rules. In your situation, you have to stand firm against the wiles of your male counterparts. I know, it isn't easy. You have to let them know that you're just a friend, nothing more and nothing less, and that they should respect the fact that you're a taken women and can only do but what being in a relationshi allows you. You have to think of how you bf may feel when it comes to your male friendships. Talk it out with him. Then you voice how you feel. Then you both should be able to come to a conclusion that is liable for neither of you to be misunderstood on the grounds of what a friendship is with the opposite sex.
2007-01-16 16:27:13 · answer #4 · answered by Ab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are going to have to accept the fact that you can't be friends with your boyfriends people. You need to find some girlfriends ask your male friends if they have some sisters or some other female friends and take it from there. If you love your guy you would figure something out that will satisfy the both of you. Good luck.
2007-01-16 16:25:18 · answer #5 · answered by nina_ross692000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you ever wonder why you have so few girl friends? Is there a problem with that, or do you enjoy male attention a little too much, and being the lone "girl" in a group of males? In any event- life's about choices: get a new boyfriend, or make female friends.
2007-01-16 16:24:57 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My g/f is worried that I might start liking other guys while I'm away but she got over it. It took her a little while, but she realized that i liked her just as much as she liked me so she trusted me. Trust is a major part of a relationship as well as communication. I would say to sit down with him and tell him that he's the only guy you're interested in. but above all, tell the truth. there is no point if you are kinda interested in someone else (it doesn't sound like you are) but let him know you're there for him and him only. I think he should get the point.
If there is one thing I've learned from my relationship, it's that communication is huge to making things work.
2007-01-16 16:29:37 · answer #7 · answered by org13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. You need to sit down with your boyfriend and tell him, gently, that you know it bothers you when his friends start to like you, but there's not much that YOU can do. You are around his friends because you want to be around HIM.
Perhaps he could talk to his friends about it, or maybe you two can hang out alone together more.
Maybe another reason there's this problem is because you're unintentionally flirting with his friends. Maybe his friends just see the way you act towards them as flirting.
2007-01-16 16:25:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all if you want to keep your boyfriend you need to tell those guys that you don't like them in that manner. Second, if your boyfriend is afraid of his friends behavior towards you, then they aren't as good friends as he thinks they are. You need to make everything clear to everyone involved exactly what is happening here. It will make things much simpler for everyone concerned.
2007-01-16 16:34:45 · answer #9 · answered by kalischild57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem with having guy friends is that 85 percent of the time they are going to like you more than a friend and your boyfriend has a right to be freeked out..dont you think. since all your guy friends seem to want more, your boyfriend is threatened. i would be if my boyfriend had girlfriends that wanted to hook up..so your guy friends dont want to just be "friends"
2007-01-16 16:24:30 · answer #10 · answered by Bad Mood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf is insecure. It's his problem. There are 10 things in every relationship that the couple have to "just deal with". This is one of yours.
I like a girl that excercises her independence, personally.
2007-01-16 16:23:49 · answer #11 · answered by Cameron L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋