why do i seem undateable?

Question

i try to take care of myself, i wouldnt consider myself ugly, although im not exactly a gorgeous guy. i am fairly smart. whats going wrong? btw, im 18 and a senior in high school. any suggestions for dealing with my loneliness?

to elaborate, i am in several clubs at my school, i am in fact a dork, and i do talk to girls. it just seems that noone can even stomach the posibility of being with me.

i also live in south florida. unfortunately i am irish and tanning is out of the question entirely. also i dont do beaches. sorry.

Answer 1

try being a good friend- let the romantic stuff "happen" -it can't be forced

Answer 2

I am 26 now and live in the same town I grew up in. I still have a pretty active social life and go out all the time. I have run into many "dorks" from high school who were awkward, shy, but smart and ambitious who are now very well off, have great jobs, dress great, have nice cars and homes and plenty of dates or a gorgeous wife. Don't stress right now. Just keep studying and think about college (another great place to meet someone).

Answer 3

Find people of like interests that is how friendships are based.
Try volunteering for a special cause that helps create friendships too..
Don't sit behind the computer and think it will happen from there, although it has happened to a few, the majority are very disappointed in serious online relationships.
But you really have to get out there in reality that is priority.

Answer 4

Maybe you are putting out an aura of unconfidence? If that is the case, maybe you need to work on liking yourself before you try to make others like you, also stop worrying so much about how you are being perceived this can sometimes be seen by others and may be a turn off

Answer 5

Without knowing what you look like, maybe you need a new look.
Try going to a upbeat hair salon that can give you a new hairstyle. If you wear glasses, try contacts or update your current frames. Check out the magazines for the new lines of clothing. If you are up to date on everything then I dont know what to tell you. Good luck!

Answer 6

Don't sweat getting dates. I was always too shy to ask girls out. I later found out I would not have had a problem with it. Just make sure you put yourself out there to be seen(parties events and such). Don't front or be a poser. Be yourself be patient and eventually it will come to YOU. Hope this helps.

Sincerely,
A HOT 30 yr old guy who wishes he knew then what he knows now.

Answer 7

Try getting out there more! Join clubs so you can make new friends that share your interests, get a job to meet people. Maybe there is just no one for you at your school so meet some new people and you are sure to find someone.

Answer 8

Hun, you're only 18, you shouldn't worry about that. My friend just got his first g/f and he's 20. ^_^. I'm 19 and in college and I really have never dated before. You just have to wait. And don't go looking for love. Love will find you if you ignore it (But look for the signs). Plus you need to get the initiative to start asking out girls. Rejection sucks, but its survivable!

Answer 9

don't worry i didn't date until after highschool and that lasted 5 mos. then didn't finally find someone until I turned 24. Now, I've been with my fiance for almost 7 yrs. I'm glad i waited and not seemed desperate because I wouldn't of found the love of my life.
Good things come to those who wait!

Answer 10

Hang in there. It's tough dating when you're in high school. You're with the same people for the last four (maybe more) years. The dating fun starts when you leave high school and go to college. OMG! You'll have a blast. Until then get your sleep ... you'll need it! :)

Answer 11

You just haven't found the right person who understands you yet. It's not that you're undateable, don't think that.

My boyfriend is a senior and he's 17, he never had a girlfriend before me. He's smart, funny, decent-looking... but no one really understood him before me, and that's the only reason he was alone before.