Is 38 too old to have a baby for the 3rd time? I have three children age 18, 12 & 1. Recently a few people have just assumed that I am the baby's grandparent. Talk about being embarrassed!!
I think they just assumed because I don't think I look old...have no wrinkles, am slim, 5'11", dress stylish etc. Has anyone out there had similar experiences and what are the opinions out there about older women having babies?
2007-01-16 08:13:45 · 12 answers · asked by Yvonne M 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Oh my God! I had the same experience in the doctor's office the other day. I am a mom of three and I have a 4 month old. I am 39. This lady I was talking to asked if I was the grandma. Shocked...I said "no, I am mom". I too am slim and she said that the reason she said that was because I didn't look like I gave birth 4 months ago. I explained to her it was only because there was no time to eat with three kids under the age of 5. Anyways...no you are not too old, you are experienced and have so much to offer as an older mommy. Don't let some bad experience take away from being a mom again. I bet you look great!
2007-01-16 08:50:30 · answer #1 · answered by BCMEDIC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all, NO WAY is 38 too old to have a baby, now a days a lot of women are waiting till their mid to late 30's to have their first child. In my experience, I am 35 my husband is several years older than I am, with two grown sons from a previous marriage and both his sons have children. We have been married for 16 years so I consider his children my children, and his grandchildren my grandchildren. At 35, I am the proud grandparent of 7, yes I said 7 grandchildren. I think people are just narrow minded and need to mind their own business. Mature women having babies is much less disturbing than 15 yr. olds having babies. I have kind of the same problem with my biological daughter, she is 15 and much taller than I am, I am only 5' and she is 5'7" people think we are sisters, hey talk about a confidence booster. I think it's great!!!!!
2007-01-16 16:26:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, by no stretch of the imagination is 38 OLD!! What does that make me at almost 50?
I had my first at age 31 after trying for a year. With hindsight, we should have started trying sooner. We started trying for the second one when the first was a year old, and after losing one in between, we finally got our second one after 5 years of trying, when I was 37.
So no, I don't think 38 is too old to have a baby, and to those who think the baby is your grandchild, you can explain if you want, or simply smile. It's really none of their business, and I don't think you should feel embarrassed at all. My friend had her last one at age 44, so you see, there are actually older moms than you out there! Best wishes to you and your family.
2007-01-16 16:31:18 · answer #3 · answered by mom of 2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
38 is not too old to have a child!!!! I'm 27, and have no children so I can't relate.......but my sis-in-law had her FIRST child at 39 and I didn't even think anything of it. Also, my mother had me when she was 36, and I was her third child.
I would be embarassed too if I were you because that is an awkward situation, but I can't imagine assuming a woman was a baby's grandmother if they looked 40 or younger.
2007-01-16 16:22:09 · answer #4 · answered by Just Me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom had my youngest brother at 39. She said that it was the most difficult of her 6 pregnancies, and took her about 8 years to fully recover from in terms of getting her body back to normal. I think that people are always going to make stupid assumptions about something, so don't feel bad about being mistaken for a grandparent. My mom is more relaxed with my little brother than she was with us older kids, and he seems to really enjoy having more attention from her. I think good moms are good moms no matter what age you are!
2007-01-16 16:21:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is normal,the only problems is the ability to take care of three children in this ages while you are old and need who take care of you. Best wishes of having a better life with your three angels.
2007-01-16 16:25:38 · answer #6 · answered by lalau 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no problem with age. Everyone has read in papers about women aged 60+ having children. So if I were you I would go ahead and have another child while you still can.
2007-01-16 16:23:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Had my first at 34. I would have made a rotten parent in my 20's, and I knew it. I was mistaken for the Grandma when my youngest was in preschool. It really didn't bother me at all. I love my kids, and that's what mattered...that I was a better, though older parent.
2007-01-16 16:22:52 · answer #8 · answered by l_quicksilver 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have several friends that have had babies into their early 40's. I think it might depend where you live. In some parts, there are people that are grandparents that young.
2007-01-16 16:23:26 · answer #9 · answered by KathyS 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mom was 37 when she had me, not planned because she didn't think she could have anymore kids (she only had my sister who is 18yrs older then me) I don't think it's too old.
2007-01-16 16:29:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋