i am 20 almost 21... i am getting married within the next year, but i am getting impatient abut having a baby?

Answer 1

WAIT!!!! WAIT~~~WAIT$$$$$$$$ Just think how much more thrilling it will be when AFTER You're married, you have the little one?,,,,,patience girl....You're time will come.....good luck....

Answer 2

At the age of 20/21 you shouldn't be getting impatient. You still have plenty of time. The biggest mistake is to rush things. Get settled in life and get a good paying job then worry about having kids. If you are patient you will have less struggle in the long run.

Answer 3

Why are you impatient? Dont rush it, you have many years to have a baby. The first year or two should be about you and your husband. Enjoy those years and then have a baby. Some say that if you have a baby early on in the marriage that it sort of ruins the marriage. Wait to have a baby.

Answer 4

WHAT??? You have plenty of time girl! I got pregant before i was married and was like 3 months along at my wedding. i just didnt feel normal or like what i thought a bride should feel like. The first year of marriage is hard enough as it is without the added stress of pregnancy or a baby. Im not saying that i regret the way things happned in my life, but please just hang in there a litle longer! Enjoy your wedding and honeymoon and enjoy being just a wife and spending time with your husband. As wonderful as babies are, you will be glad you held out for a little bit! Seeif you can babysit a friend or family member's child for a day or weekend...that should curb your craving! Or just go to Chuck E Cheese next Saturday night!

Answer 5

I know you really want a baby right now... and maybe you actually are ready. But honestly, wait at least until after you're married. It doesn't have to be a long time after you walk down the aisle... heck, you can get yourself pregnant on your wedding night if you want to.

But be SURE to wait until your husband is ready. If you pressure him into having a child when he's not prepared and not entirely happy about it going so fast, it'll ruin your relationship and perhaps the happiness of the child.

EDITED TO ADD: Also, you may want to wait longer into your marriage... the beginning is always rough, and adding on you being pregnant and hormones raging is not going to help at all.

Answer 6

Why?

I just turned 40 and I'm having my first in July.

I know I'll be able to support this child financially. We have a nice home and good careers, so it will not go cold or hungry. It will have a good school system to learn in, a safe crime-free environment to grow up in, and lots of space to be a kid in.

We planned it this way. Both of us were raised by parents who had kids really young and had to struggle to make ends meet. Neither of us had the chance to go to college because our folks coudn't afford it. We've both had to work really hard to get to where we are, and we know we'll be good parents because of it.

We've both traveled the world and have many years of wisdom that will make us effective parents and mentors. We're socially evolved enough to understand people, and how to best get along with them...because we weren't locked in our houses raising children in our 20s...we were out living and working and socializing with people our own ages.

I think it'd be wise to consider what you have to offer this child first. Do you know where you'll be or what you'll be doing in five years? How about in ten years?

Will having this child now restrict you from doing something that could make you a better parent down the road, like college or travel or career experience?

Are you financially secure enough to begin a college fund for this child?

I'd hope you'd consider all these things and do so quite seriously. As a child whose parents did not, and as a parent-to-be who has, I feel uniquely qualified to advise you.

If you really want something to care for and parent right now, rescue a needy dog from the local shelter. It's excellent parenting practice, and it'll give you a good idea what life will be like when you're completely responsible for the life of another.

Answer 7

TAKE YOUR TIME!!!You may think that you want a baby now but you need to have as much fun as you can while you can because that is a lifetime commitment that you can't just change your mind on. I know what you mean. I am 21 and sometimes I want a kid myself, but I think of all of the sacrifices that I would have to go through and all the things I would have to give up and I would regret it if I did. Besides you have to cement the marriage as well before you add a family to it.

Answer 8

Take it from someone who had a baby at 20 (right after getting married). Take some time to enjoy being newlyweds first and make sure you're both ready to have a baby (money, space, etc). Babies are always a blessing regardless of when they're born. Things are just easier when you're prepared.

Answer 9

You've got lots of time to have a baby. Take the time the first part of your marriage to get to know each other and do the things you want to do without having to lug a baby with you. You won't regret the extra time, and when you do have a baby, you can not say you wish you would have waited. Congrats on the wedding!

Answer 10

You need to put on the brakes. Get to know your husband in this new aspect of your relationship. Things are going to be tough getting used to the changes in your relationship. Why add more problems, get to know one another in your new roles. You have plenty of time to have children. That should be a decision you are both ready for not because you feel you are getting impatient. Adpot a dog or a plant.

Answer 11

trust me it's not anything to get impatient about sweetie. give it time because when you have the baby your going to be thinking why shouldn't i have. also, you need to be financially stable. since your getting married, or what not i'm pretty sure that's going to put you in an *** of debt so don't rush it just yet