can you help me understand as to why i am the one who is always on the receiving end?

Question

since about a week before my brother in laws death my mum seems to be always blowing up at me if say for example i don't reply straight away to something that is said or if i am quiet one day & she doesn't know why because she never bothers to ask.i'm 18 yrs old & the youngest & at the moment my brother lives with us & my sister her bf & her daughter live with us,but allthe time its me that gets shouted at for doing next to nothing, i think the most i have ever done is told my mum to shut up & i know its not nice but when you have someone in your face all the time it happens.like just before i went out of the room & i was heading back to my seat when my mum said i was giving her a nasty look i would've admitted doing it had i actually been looking at her at the time & then she goes off on one telling me if i do one more thing then my bags are going to be packed & she doesn't care where i end up.its odd because i'm the only one who has a job that has prospects as a polce officer.. help?

Answer 1

Oh my. Yes, it does sound like you're on the receiving end. I would talk to her and ask what's really bothering her. Maybe she's still grieving over the loss of her son in law; if I read that one right. Maybe also it might help for her to talk to someone about it and or other things that might be going on that you may not be aware of; but you won't know until you ask =) Best wishes!

Answer 2

It looks like your mom is over whelmingly stress. Have you thought about doing something nice for her like, give her a gift of a couple of hours at a day spa. She gets on you because you seemed to be the only one doing something right and it is scaring her because you might fail and she does not want you to fail. So hang in there, remember she is stressed and does no where to place it, so it is coming at you. Sort of look at it that way, and don't disrespect her by telling her to shut up.