Marriage to me is pointless...I cant see myself being with only one person...Of course when i hook up with someone, i like them but there comes a point when i just get tired of her and i simply ignore her...little by little she gets the hint that i dont wanna be with her...Its been like this with EVERY single relationship..Literally, Ive always been the one doing the dumping...At first im all exited to be with her...2-3 wks later...I get annoyed...Rather than driving miles and miles to see her..Id rather be at home watching TV because i work full-time...
2007-01-16 08:00:51 · 9 answers · asked by chi_south_kid1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No its not bad, it sounds like you want a legacy without BS, or being chained down. Sounds like want a surrogate mother to birth your kids.
2007-01-16 08:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by Steve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need counseling. You may be from a home where parents were not in harmony with each other. Were your parents divorced? Do you have a fear of marriage? If you do, then talk to a church pastor to get help. Talk to your friends and find out if they are planning to get married. Then ask them why they gave the answer they will give (positive or negative).
You seem to be at a point in your life where you don't know exactly what you want in a woman. Next relationship you have, take things slow. Tell yourself you will not have sex with this girl, but you will get to know her more before anything else comes to pass. Find out about her past, her family and get to know some of her friends. By really knowing her, you will feel more attached to her and develop a stronger bond with her.
All relationships last as long as the foundation is deep. I am now married to a woman I met and knew since Junior High. We are married for 4 weeks now and things can only get better.
Why not go back to church? If you have a reason to have one woman (as the Bible says), you will be able to do it. I feel better knowing I am not in sin when I have sex. I feel happy and relieved that there is someone I can trust not to give me an STI (Sexually Transmitted Infection). Good luck!
2007-01-16 16:10:58 · answer #2 · answered by cardo11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You like the challenge of getting the girl and having the beginning fun...almost like a high?? I used to be the same way...stayed single for a very long time and finally found someone and have been together for 4 years. Don't want to get married...we have kids, but just don't feel the need for the paper. I had the same problem of getting rid of the person...had to have ALONE time to figure out what I really wanted in my life. Just chill, you will get what you want eventually.
2007-01-16 16:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by pgilley30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you just haven't found the right woman. but i can't see having a child with someone you aren't going to be with. it's not bad that you want kids and no marriage but it's a lot harder when you aren't with that person (i know this from experience) plus if you're too tired to drive a few miles to see a woman because you work then it'll be the same with kids. kids take a LOT of energy and work.
2007-01-16 16:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by butter_cream1981 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to check yourself and ask yourself what is it that you want in a female. You need to follow your heart and if you are planning to have kids its best to marry than having 3 -4 baby mamas out there. Marriage is a beautiful thing and its even better when you have kids they help bring the joy out of it.
2007-01-16 16:06:41 · answer #5 · answered by Child of God 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep searching! I'm sure there's a girl out there for you. If not, then... I guess you could donor to have kids.
2007-01-16 16:04:20 · answer #6 · answered by thereisnobathroom! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u find the rite girl i bet u will want 2 marry her....then u can have ur kids
2007-01-16 16:04:56 · answer #7 · answered by Georgie P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u sound like a jerk no ofence....but ul find the right person
2007-01-16 16:05:41 · answer #8 · answered by sk8trgrrl101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well then your just a player then.
2007-01-16 16:04:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋