My son just got his liscence and I couldn't be prouder!! He is a wonderful kid but has a couple of not so good friends. He is also very gullable and I don't want him to get used for his car. What kind of rules do I place on this whole thing???
Any suggestions would be great!!
2007-01-16 07:55:15 · 11 answers · asked by pgilley30 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
First 2 months: no one else in the car! No talking on a cell phone while driving, no eating, nothing that distracts him.
Months 2-4: no one in the car after 9:00pm
Driving previlage loss if ANYONE is drinking (alcohol), smoking (anything), speeding ticket (or any other ticket), or having sex in the car.
Limit the number of people allowed in the car.
Be very clear and set the rules and the punishments before hand. If he continues to break a certain rule, then change the punishment.
Buy him an old car to start with. If he doesn't get into any trouble AND never looses his driving previlage THEN buy him a better car for graduation. If he doesn't follow your rules then he is stuck with the old car when he goes to college.
Make sure the car is in your name so that you can take the keys away if needed.
Also, make his car previlages tied to his grades and chores.
2007-01-16 08:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by Amy B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With my 3 sons I went a whole different route than most parents do, even back 10 or so yrs ago.. they could NOT get liscense until they had a job for 3 months, that meant ME taking them, but that was ok, and they all had to hold that job, to pay insurance and for gas !!! they were allowed as much freedom as they deserved... break a rule, loose a privalage.. at first they drove ONLY to school and home, work and home, for the first 3 months of having them, then we extended driving times till 11 pm on wk ends, and NO one was to smoke or drink in car !!! and we even said how many ppl were allowed to ride in the car at the same time, the more in there the more trouble !!!! If we found they broke the rules it was back to driving only to school and home and work !! sit down with him and explain to him your worried and fears of having certain ppl in car with him and why... do NOT put the friends down, talk to him as a YOUNG ADULT and the things that can and do happen when there are just the wrong ppl taking away their attention from driving safely and about the OTHER drivers and what can go wrong with just that... set up rules and write them ALL down, plane language and clear cut... with the punishments for each broken one... driving is a privialage NOT a given right !!! God bless
2007-01-16 08:06:58 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would put a restriction of only ONE other person in the car with him. It seems like I have heard about some lawmakers considering on petioning that at some point. I would also put time restrictions on the car. If he is driving then he should be home at a decent hour (say 10-11pm). I know it sounds harsh and strict, but more accidents occur when the child is out late and with a large group.
Maybe when he has his license a little longer you can gradually lift those rules.
2007-01-16 08:03:58 · answer #3 · answered by zinntwinnies 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations to your son. Some of the restrictions I had:
1) No more than 1 other person in the car
2) No driving after dark unless approved by the parent
3) ABSOLUTELY no letting any one else drive his car. I didn't listen to this one, and then my friend passed a school bus. Guess who got blamed. :-(
4) A limit on how many miles he is allowed to drive/month
and of course 5) Must help parents out with any trips they may request. (take sibling to school, go to grocery store)
2007-01-16 10:08:44 · answer #4 · answered by carls812 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let ANYONE drive his car. Make him pay for gas so he learns to take only necessary trips. A speeding ticket, at fault accident, or car abuse means no more driving until he's 18. Driving should definately be cut off before his curfew. No more than 3 people in the car (if your state law even allows for anyone). Definately make him take the bus, or maybe let him drive in once in a while (it's easier for him to say no to people at school who will take advantage of him, if the car isn't with him). I remember only getting in trouble on school nights for car related stuff when I was his age.
Trust him. He'll do fine.
2007-01-16 08:11:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No driving between 6 AM and 6 PM, only one other person in the car with him at a time. He should still ride bus or walk to school
2007-01-16 08:01:48 · answer #6 · answered by railway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you sound like a really great parent - step or no step - however I think that you'll just have to let your stepson go. He has to make his own mistakes and I think you need to stop coddling him. If he feels that he doesn't need you then he can have what he wants. He'll be back eventually. For your other stepchildren I'd suggest you don't let them earn ungrounding because chores don't cancel out their actions.
2016-05-25 02:34:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is coming from a teen.......
right after I got my D.L. I got in an accident, why? cause I wa distracted by a friend. I would just word your concerns to him, dont let him drive too far. If hes a wonderful kid, then when you do talk to him i think he will listen, i wish my parents might have talked to me, maybe i wouldnt have gotten in my accident.
Good Luck!
2007-01-16 09:56:38 · answer #8 · answered by chelsea c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check your state rules. Many have specific laws about teen drivers. Many states do not allow teens to drive with other teens in the car.
2007-01-16 08:28:16 · answer #9 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
License. No BJ's in the car while driving. That is my biggest problem.
2007-01-16 08:03:33 · answer #10 · answered by joshjones007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋