If the childs dad has a girlfriend of many years should the child call the girlfriend mom. if it is a serious relationship. and is it right even if the child calls her mom on her own. was not told to should the child be corrected
2007-01-16 07:50:14 · 28 answers · asked by whynot 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Im not in the situation but im just curious
2007-01-16 08:17:35 · update #1
I have a 3 year old step son and i have been with his dad for almost 2 years. He doesnt see his mom very often and has been calling me mommy for a year now. we never made him call me it, he just chose to. his mom knows and she is ok with it. he calls me mommy and her mom. I think it depends on the child on weather or not they want to call the women by her name or not, dont force them. they will do what feels right to them
2007-01-17 14:28:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the child calls the girlfriend Mom, and the child calls the mother Mom, then it means the child is comfortable with the girlfriend enough to call her that. I used to call the parents of my friends Mom for a lot of years, and some of them I still do.
2007-01-16 08:12:51 · answer #2 · answered by patience3987 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it if fine if its the child chooseing to do so. If the child is being forced even with a step mom then that is totally wrong and will cause resentment BAD. Growing up and still to this day, I call my friends moms MOM. the ones I feel ok doing that too. Its not that I am tradeing my real mom for another lol. thats crazy! So no I dont think it is a big deal the child calls daddys girlfriend mom. maybe she feels more at ease calling her that.
2007-01-16 08:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by goober 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you do when there is an 18 month child that is being coached into calling the daddy's girlfriend mommy and telling t0/he child to call her mom by her name. Right now they are getting her 50/50. I feel that there is brain washing going on here. What can be done about this?
2015-08-18 13:55:03 · answer #4 · answered by Angela 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends entirely upon the situation, and the comfort level of all involved... children, parents and steps. While I don't believe any child should be actively encouraged to call a step parent mom or dad, I don't necessarily see it as a bad thing in all circumstances. I've known people who grew up only having one bio parent and a step parent in their lives from a young age. In such cases, they view their step parent as more a parent than the absent bio parent. To call them mom or dad seems pretty much natural to me. My daughters were older when their father remarried, and in their teens when I did. Both their father and I play a very active role in their lives. As such, they view us as mom and dad and address their step parents by their first names. I see nothing wrong with that either. I don't think there can be a blanket judgment call on this matter, as situations so very different for each family.
2016-05-25 02:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very tough one. My fiancee''s daughter started asking everyone if I was her new mommy, and her grandma (who has her in her temporary custody) was pretty angry, and told us not to confuse her. She then proceeded to explain to her how the real mother was her mother. Which was fine with me, I agree that we shouldn't confuse her. However, the mother is talking about giving up her parental rights, and doesn't want anything to do with her. So why shouldn't the child have some form of a mother??
If the child doesn't have a mother, (if she's deceased), or the mother has given up parental rights or wants nothing to do with the child, then I would say it's okay for her to call her mom if she wants to. She needs a mother. It's up to the child's dad.
2007-01-16 07:56:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
not at all, shows that the child is comfortable with the woman. Dont change that bond, and it also makes the woman more comfortable with the child and feel loved, im a step mother of 2 little boys, there mother hasnt been apart of their life for the past 6 years ive been mom for the past 5 years ( they are 8 and 6) so i am mom to them and i love the privilage of being called mom. I dont take that for granted, i love them, they are my sons :) Let that bond grow
2007-01-16 07:55:39 · answer #7 · answered by jess_n_flip 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's right, especially if the baby's mommy is still in the picture. The girlfriend has a name, let the child use that, or maybe something cute, a special name that the girlfriend could have, but mom, mommy, I don't think is right.
2007-01-16 08:05:25 · answer #8 · answered by I Love Pink! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a mom, and i think that would be horrible if my child called someone else "mommy", mean while i'm the who gave birth to my child and raised it... would you have a problem if your child's mother had a "boyfriend" who your child called "daddy".... even if it was a serious relationship it's wrong... don't confuse the poor child. everyone can give an opinion but if they were in the real mothers shoes i don't think they would like their baby calling some other woman mommy....
2007-01-16 08:05:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the child wants to call her mom then it should be ok! especially since you are serious with the mom!!! If she is the mommy figure then she is the mommy! Being a mommy is a special thing and if the little girl feels thats mommy then she should be mommy! Maybe you should make her a mommy by marrying her. lol Ok Im pushing it now I know:) Good Luck
2007-01-16 07:56:16 · answer #10 · answered by Tiffany 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋