2007-01-16 07:48:05 · 13 answers · asked by Karasu 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If someone asks you about it tell the truth. In the end you are going to look like the bigger and better person if you take that approach versus bad mouthing them and spreading lies about them. They obviously need to grow up but you can't do that for them. No matter what hold your head high because you know what is true and when the truth does come out they will be seen for the liars that they are...KARMA is a b*%&$ if you know what I mean.
2007-01-16 07:54:27 · answer #1 · answered by BOBBIE 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is happening to me right now, where I work. There is an individual who had heard a 'rumor' that I was fired from my previous job for sexual harrasment. This was not true, even though a few misguided team members there thought that to get a better supervisor than me (one who let them get away with long breaks, slacking, etc) all they had to do was set me up for a harrasment charge. It didn't work. My management team knew better, and knew ME better. But the rumor started, and this idiot picked it up. Why does he perpetuate this very old story? He likes my S/O, who hates him. He is a gossip, and after awhile...here comes the answer to your question...he has no audience as the people he tells these tales to get to know me and see that I am not that kind of person. In fact, the whole thing is about to collapse on him as he has told the wrong person, and she wants to go to HR on my behalf. I told her that was fine with me.
Here's the thing...if you have nothing to hide, then shine! These gossips only want center stage and can only play to a very small and certain crowd: those of like bent and mentality. He won't go after those close to me...he doesn't dare. He can only try to convince new faces, but for what? His own power? Once a gossip gets going, he needs to perpetuate the gossip, or create more. He needs to lie, and the lies he tells will always trip him up. It never fails: Give a dog enough rope and he WILL wrap himself arounf the nearest teee, pole, bush, etc. Dogs aren't that bright. Dogs gossip. Cats are creatures of fact, and nothing else. Be a cat, tell the truth, don't let the gossips get you down because they have nothing to sell.
Stay cool!
Oh..I was fired from that job, years after the false charges. I made a serious clerical error that could have cost my department a ridiculous amount of money. I took my lumps. My bosses all gave me sterling letters and references, though. I am welcome to visit and even have coffee with them from time to time; no hard feelings at all. I got this job because of my own talents and two of those letters. If I had been fired for what the rumor says, there'd be no letters, no friendships where I used to work, either. Nor would I have been even remotely elegible for the unemployment benefits I needed to collect after being terminated for the clerical oops! That would have been termination for gross misconduct, which was not my infraction. Some people, though, just don't get it. They get jealous, though, but it eventually wears off.
2007-01-16 08:03:06 · answer #2 · answered by The Mystic One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, been there and not too long ago. I just stood up to the person talking sh**. Confronted them with alot of people around so they couldn't deny what they had been up too...(spreading lies and rumors!). After that i cut of all ties and no longer have anything to do with that person...life is too short for bullshit!!! I will not waste my time on people with nothing better to do than start sh**!!!!
My best of luck to you....
2007-01-16 08:01:37 · answer #3 · answered by punkprincess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There isn't much you can do other than don't let it bother you. Live like an upstanding adult and people will figure out it's not true for themselves. If people are listening to the b.s. then they're not people worth worrying about in the first place.
2007-01-16 07:54:28 · answer #4 · answered by Tasha 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let them know the truth and tell them to stop.You would not spread lies about them and it hurts
2007-01-16 07:54:28 · answer #5 · answered by woodsonhannon53 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Confront this person infront of your peers. Refer to something specific (one of the lies) and ask this person if they said something about you. Repeat this again and again until it stops. Make sure there are others around to hear their reply. Don't be intimidated, it's your reputation at stake. I've seen this work.
2007-01-16 12:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by Rascal 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, be the mature one and ignore them because they are probably doing it for attention anyway, and if someone asks you about the lies, kindly direct them to the truth. Problem solved.
2007-01-16 09:56:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well here is what I do. I say to everyone, "well she or he is in titled to their own opinion. I don't have time for immature people, they don't have nothing better to do poor them" That's what I say and leave it at that. Because if you try to defend yourself you make them win and have the upper hand. People like to see you miserable. LOL
2007-01-16 07:55:05 · answer #8 · answered by empress29 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All adults are capapble of fixing their problems, tell them straight in their face.They are not your freind, so don't worry about hurting their feelings.Say it loud so everyone can hear you call them what they are...A LIAR.
2007-01-16 11:35:13 · answer #9 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spread the TRUTH, and say it loud
2007-01-16 07:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋