Things from my husbands past bother me so badly that just the name of an ex makes my stomach upset and almost sends me into a panic attack. It only does this at certain times. Sometimes things are much easier to deal with. It is not a matter of being mature, I think it is not knowing how to deal with issues or things bothering me...can anyone help please. I constantly worry, and I am making myself miserble.
2007-01-16 07:47:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
It is not the fact that my husband likes his ex by anymeans...and her name only comes up by others not by him...Things from my husbands past bother me so badly that just the name of an ex makes my stomach upset and almost sends me into a panic attack. It only does this at certain times. Sometimes things are much easier to deal with. It is not a matter of being mature, I think it is not knowing how to deal with issues or things bothering me...can anyone help please. I constantly worry, and I am making myself miserble.
2007-01-16 08:19:32 · update #1
There must be a reason behind these feelings. Could it be a lack of trust with him? Counseling can help get all your feelings out and figure out why you feel the way you do sometimes.
2007-01-16 07:59:33 · answer #1 · answered by slp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am answering your question assuming that your husband has no feeling for his ex.
Something like this could happen as a result of leaking trust. What I meant by that is you might have hidden feelings towards the connection bwt your husband and his ex. The things that you describe in your question go close with criteria of mistrust. Get to know her and try to accept the reality. Try to face the facts rather than running away from it….well… you can invite her to your home and have some fun….
If you get panic each time your hear her name, try to think of her as a good person or try to take your mind away from her and forces on the conversation.
2007-01-16 19:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by MSS 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For me, I feel that hearing more and not paying attention when the name comes up allows me not to get pissed off and bothered by it. Ask him if he still loves her and whether or not he loves you. If he loves you and not her, disregard it whenever her name comes up in conversation. If he still loves her, tell him to prepare for divorce so that he could be with her. And if he opts for divorce make sure that all possessions and children stay with you, teach him a lesson.
2007-01-16 15:57:14 · answer #3 · answered by Broadsword 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I ask myself if I can change it. You can't. You have to accept this ex-you might want to get some extra counseling and discuss this with them.
2007-01-16 16:35:11 · answer #4 · answered by Marie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'll pass on a tip which I was given years ago in a working environment where certain colleagues really got to me. "Just think of him on the toilet wearing his gum boots." (Or "her" ditto, even funnier!) It works surprisingly well!
2007-01-16 15:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by Doethineb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do a thressome with whomever you are jealous with. That will put everything out in the open.
2007-01-16 16:09:12 · answer #6 · answered by G M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u have to do something so fun dat u just forget about ur husband..
like..go on a rollercoaster..and do other fun stuff so ull just stop thinking of all the bad stuff..
2007-01-16 15:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by applebottom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋