My wife and I have been mulling this for 2 years. We have a daughter (that is 2) and love her like crazy. Some days we think that we should focus only on her and have enough money to take her on vacations, etc, save enough to get her the things she needs/wants or we want. Other times we wonder if she's missing too much by not having a sibling. Any thoughts about the 1 or 2 kid question?
2007-01-16 07:44:58 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
well we have two boys right now one is three and the other is two. vactions are not much more with two then with three. an extra plane ticket and food for one more is not that bad. plus she may want a brother or a sister. think about this some day you and your wife will be gone and she will be left alone in this world; at least with a brother or a sister around she will have some one to be there for her. also i am one of six and we are all very close even to this day we all live in the same town just min from each other i don't know what i would do without them.
2007-01-16 07:49:59 · answer #1 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is not a huge difference between #1 and #2, but going from #2 to #3 is a HUGE deal.
Seriously, most of our society is set up for families with two children....vacation packages, restaurant booths, sedan-type cars.... having three or more children automatically places you in a higher expense bracket.... but, I digress.
When you have 2 children, you can re-use most of the baby equipment, and lots of the clothes, especially if you have the same gender. Feeding one more is not much of an issues until the teen years.
The benefits of sibling relationships, IMO, far outweigh the added expense. I come from a family of 4 children and so does my husband. We chose to have 3. Having siblings gives a sense of belonging and secuirty that no other relationship offers.
Kudos to you and your wife for putting so much thought into your decision. I wish you well whatever you decide.
2007-01-16 11:48:11 · answer #2 · answered by not yet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think it's a financial question. It's another child. Are you and your wife ready for another child? You need to look inside yourselves and at your lives and ask yourselves are you "ready" for another child? Do you "want" another child? I believe where there is a will there is a way. You never know what is going to happen in life. As far as having another child so the one you have won't be alone later on in life - you can't plan on things like that. It's not a light decision. Children are forever. That's how they should be viewed. God willing they will outlive us and clearly you have been putting a great deal of thought behind this if you've been thinking about this for two years now. I hope you find your answer. God bless and best of luck to both of you on your decision.
2007-01-16 08:21:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well after the initail costs of having the child the costs are: 2 pair of shoes instead of 1, 2 new coats instead of one, and on down the line!!! 2kids to send to college and if a girl 2 weddings to pay for. Also 2 times the hugs, 2 times the kisses, 2times the pride when they do well, 2 times the joy, 2 times the love!!!!
2007-01-16 07:50:15 · answer #4 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 06:19:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What 'Elaeblue' said was so right about "twice the love" etc! I have four children and worried about how we'd manage before they were born, but you just do. Keeping all the essentials from the first baby helps a lot, cots and tiny clothes etc. Your daughter will be thrilled to have a new baby to fuss over and once it's arrived, you'll wonder why you worried so much!
2007-01-16 07:59:49 · answer #6 · answered by Welshdragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is less expensive the 2nd time around especially if you have a child the same gender. You save on clothing because of hand me downs and toys/books can be handed down as well.
2007-01-16 07:55:19 · answer #7 · answered by KathyS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the first kid always costs the most. because you have to buy everything new, as more kids come it is slightly cheaper because you can re-use alot of that stuff such as the crib, the play toys etc.
its still exspensive but its no way near "doubleing" the costs.
i have 4 boys though - and i couldnt afford a 5th, even if me and my wife tried hard
2007-01-16 08:13:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of it this way two of everything i got two daycare bills two daipers two clothes to buy let alone all the extras make sure your money is right first and only children can be a good thing she will get all the attention and i think you shoulld just enroll her in play groups to get that intraction with other children i love my childeren to death and would never take them back but if i could decide to have one or it would be one
2007-01-16 07:57:32 · answer #9 · answered by sinnmon_gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband and I have a 16 month old daughter and we are trying for another baby, I dont want there to be a big age difference between them, but I dont think there will be a major money issue, they will both be in different things, she eats what we eat so theres no problem there.
2007-01-16 07:56:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋