My friend has 8..... They are real sweet and helpful... But boy does she have her hands full
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What is your 2 cents....
2007-01-16 07:39:22 · 53 answers · asked by poohgirl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Angel Devil-
I am not critiszing anyone one....
Thank you!
Just wanted to see what other people thought was to much.
I have 3 myself!
2007-01-16 07:49:52 · update #1
If we each had the children we coud "afford" there would be no kids in the world!!! There is no real answer here as this is a TRMENDOUSLY private decision. I was finished after 1, but my husband talked me into a second. After that, we decided to have one more, and again, I was finished having kids. Just a few months later, I found out a fourth was on the way despite two kinds of birth control. (Lesson: not everything is in OUR control). We now have a family we feel is complete with 4 children (and a visectomy). I can't imagine having any less even though I was "finished" after each birth!
2007-01-16 08:04:17 · answer #1 · answered by sm2f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wanted 5 and got 3, all boys... my neighbor has 8 and home teaches them ALL plus a few more.. she has 1 in medical school another who is becoming a pilot at the age of 18 and going to full time collage, etc, they are great kids and smart to boot !!!! I know other ppl who have just 1 and grrrrrrrr !!! so I guess what I am saying, it all depends on who and what and where and when !! the problem is very few ppl actualy think or plan out just how many they want or will have. It just seems to happen or they just do not take the precautions it takes to STOP having them, or they think it is gonna be a peice of cake or is fun etc..... sooooo, anyway, I think each couple needs to decide and KNOW what they can or can not handle emotionally and financially too !!! God bless
2007-01-16 07:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-16 08:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-16 07:45:29 · answer #4 · answered by HeAvEnLy_PiNk 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2007-01-16 07:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
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2007-01-16 07:41:48 · answer #6 · answered by lilbigred12 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I have 2 kids aged 11 & 5. The 11 year old is a girl and the 5 year old is a boy. If you asked me right now I would say 2 is too many:) Kidding, somewhat! Girls are killers at this age. They talk back and throw attitude and all that good stuff we did when we were younger. Boys are just rowdy and get into things, but that wears off I am told. So I would say my answer is, depends on if they are girls or boys. I would have 5 more boys before I even thought of having 1 more girl. I love her dearly but I want to pull my hair out daily with her. I am the Gemini in the family, but I swear she has 2 personalities.
I would say 2 kids are perfect, one of each so that you can enjoy the differences in raising and loving them.
2007-01-16 07:46:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Depends on the parent/parents patience and financial stability. Diff for everyone. Some want 1 child and that is great for them, others want 10 (as long as they provide a loving and supportive home, its none of anyones business) Probably average is 3-4 kids. I have 4 now (3 triplets) and I plan on having more. Your friend is brave! Good luck to her!
2007-01-16 07:48:15 · answer #8 · answered by eric 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When it gets to the point that you can't feed, clothe, house, and otherwise take care of them without government assistance, then you have too many. If you want 8 kids that's great, but be prepared to work hard and foot the bill yourself. If you have to rely on the assistance of taxpayers or even family members and friends to foot the bill, then you're in over your head.
Personally I love large families, but I know that I'm not financially able to have more kids (I have two now.), so I won't have anymore. Unless I win the lottery, lol. :)
2007-01-16 08:35:12 · answer #9 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too many kids ... tough to define.
When the number of children exceeds your ability, as a parent, to connect and care for them on an individual basis to the degree that fosters their ability to evolve into healthy, contributing adults, then you have too many.
When you find yourself strung out and unable to be the adult you need to be with your kids, seek help. Ask your partner to do more, share more with your older children, and find the people resources available to you in your community. You'd be delighted by the number of people available, if you ask around. It may be something as simple as car pooling that really helps you with scheduling care.
For some people, the number is less than 1. For others, who team wisely with their spouse and older siblings, there probably isn't a cap. The important thing is that you keep in mind your boundaries as an adult, and your reasons for inviting more children into your life.
2007-01-16 07:49:06 · answer #10 · answered by bethany_s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋