I have an ex- we fell in love & got engaged- it was a young love for me, but maybe not for him. I was naive to the world and what it was all about. The 2nd half of the relationship was long distance and in my other state (literally) I had a wandering mind and went ahead and partied etc, kissed one guy, slept with another... cheated, is the short story of it... It was the most painful relationship in the WORLD for me to this day- losing the 1 I really feel alive with & knowing that it was me that has something to feel shame over... Being older now and more aware of myself and the world, I have made strides from my pathetic state and have dated and led a normal life- BUT! I cannot move on from him quite yet. I cannot dissever whether it is sole inability to forgive myself or mostly the fact that I would love to see him and show what a beautiful person I've GROWN to be- I know he would love me again if I could have a chance. Been there? What do u make of this? Contact him for closure?
2007-01-16 07:36:36 · 8 answers · asked by Alexia S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Been 2 1/2 yrs since we spoke.
2007-01-16 07:37:34 · update #1
Lovestodance- good point...
What if you do have someone who wants to love you and you love them? But just becuase you love someone doesn't mean your not over the other... There is still a void... that love isn't the love to make me whole... there's something missing... passion and genuinity like I know love CAN be...
2007-01-16 07:46:16 · update #2
First of all we all make mistakes especially in relationships but the good part is that we learn from our mistakes and know what NOT to do again. In my opinion if he is single and you do get in touch with him I would say go for it, open up to him and let him know your true feelings and if it work out always keep communication first in the relationship and let him be the ONE and only u were looking for. Good Luck!!!
2007-01-16 07:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by Child of God 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question. You made a mistake now you living with your own lesson. You didn't mention if you ever told him about your philandering eyes. I think you should call (or in this name and age, e-mail) him to see what he has been up to. You have nothing to lose, but make sure if he does give you another chance you won't hurt him again. But be aware, people change within a course of a year, and it has been over 2, so don't be suprised if he is a little different. He might be a little traumatized that you guys left things the way you did. Good luck. Call him. E-mail him. You need that for closure..
2007-01-16 07:44:21 · answer #2 · answered by Gina C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read this book that helped me out: It's Called a Break Up Because It's Broken. If it's been 2+ years, girl, he's moved on and so should you. It sounds an awful lot like you want his validation and forgiveness. You won't get it, so stop looking.
You must first forgive yourself and be content with that. The book talks about having PRIDE. Have pride in who you've become, the fact that you've grown and have lots to share with someone new.
Embrace that and move forward. you've got new adventures ahead! Good luck!
2007-01-16 07:45:11 · answer #3 · answered by BBD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i have been in a situation kinda like that. Maybe spending time to think will help you. Its hard to believe that you hurt the one you once loved. And you will always think about them they will never just disapear outa your mind. Contacting him for closure sounds good but make sure your ready to talk to him again and make sure its really what you want to do but in my case i did tlk to him for closure and it made my situation with him better i still love him but im not in love with him. and maybe later on you will still have feelings for him but not as strong as they once for but one piece of advice make sure you forgive yourself b4 you tlk to him for closure
2007-01-16 07:44:53 · answer #4 · answered by simply happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE may have changed into something you may NOT like...it's just the romantic notion of the "one who got away"...reality may not be nearly as fun as the memory....when you find someone to give your heart to again, and that will love you in return and fill your life, then you will be able to move on...
2007-01-16 07:42:56 · answer #5 · answered by Toots 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that.....sometimes you just got realize that things aren't meant to be, but always hold on to the memories.
2007-01-16 07:41:06 · answer #6 · answered by ginluvsrob06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-01-16 07:40:30 · answer #7 · answered by == 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow- maybe you should contact him.. to clear your conscience.
2007-01-16 07:45:00 · answer #8 · answered by aaron 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋