Is it really child abuse?

Question

I would just like to comment of these people who are all claiming that a swat on the backside is "child abuse", THIS IS NUTS in this great country of ours that a parent is not allowd to disapline their child. Growing up I got spankings when I needed it and yes i said needed it, I also got my mouth slapped a few times for talking back and such. I DO NOT FEEL I WAS ABUSED, and I am a productive member of society and I turned out to be a fairly level headed person. I have never been in trouble with the law or anything like this. I will say that it can be abuse if it is taken to far.

Answer 1

omg! i was so abused! boohoo....sob...sniffle....
heck no! it is not child abuse...frankly, i am not sure how my parents didnt smack my smart but more often! i am thankful for the way my parents shaped me.....made me a strong person who thinks through the consequences

Answer 2

I don't think so, because people that usually say this usually don't have kids and they have no idea how kids are. You can try everything in the book, and sometimes a swat on the behind is needed to get your point across. Time outs, taking things away, etc are always first in my book but sometimes they can draw the line. Doing nothing somehow makes the kid more powerful and disrespectful. I think that is what's wrong with a lot of today is kids are able to do whatever the hell they want because they know nobody's going to stop them. It sucks because I see kids every day that SORELY need an aass whooping and their parents sit there with their thumbs in their aass pretending it's not happening,or something. My aunt never raised a hand to her kids...oh, it's abuse!!! And they are on the verge of criminal activity all the time. My other aunt, who practically knocked the kids lights out whenever anything wasn't up to her standards are model citizens. I'm just saying.

Answer 3

Yes kids do need to be disciplined, and I do not consider an occasional spanking abuse, but I feel that there are alternatives to hitting and if you are a creative parent you can make them work for you. It really isn't smart parenting to hit a child in order to correct their behavior (and in fact its kind of lazy). All it says is that if I am bigger than someone I can make them do what I want. This is not a good lesson for a child.

What you should do instead is find the child's currency. A favorite bear, a blankey, a video game, make up, baseball practice...and take that away until the behavior changes.
If they won't clean their room, throw all their stuff into garbage bags except for the bed, bedding and clothes (leave basic clothes if clothes are your child's currency) and then make them earn the items back with good behavior. You do not need ti hit to be a disciplinary parent.

Answer 4

well first of all dot act like your parents just because u didn't get into no trouble with the law doesn't mean that spanking your kid will help him the same way everyone reacts to situations differently maybe u got spanked and it worked on u but some kids if they grow up being spanked will maybe want to become rebels against u so my advice talk to him or her not screaming or fighting sit down with him or her and explain what there doing wrong and why it is wrong and tell them and show them what happen to ppl who get in trouble with the law or if he or she is just little and lets say they abuse or have killed animals that's is a sure sign that they will be criminals in the future and then matters should be put in a professional hands take to psychologist but children can be made to cry by just talking to them and making them realize what they have done is wrong i have and it works good luck

Answer 5

Growing up as a child I got swatted w/every object you can use. Also my parents also tend to take it to a level that I would considered abuse, but I have swatted my children on the butt when it was warranted. The shame is that children have been taught that this can be abuse, and who to call. So how as parents are we to discipline our children. If we don't and they get into trouble with the law, the parents are blamed for not teaching our children. It has become a losing battle.

Answer 6

As a child I was never beaten by my parents, only reasoned with.

At school however I was getting beaten with a cane almost every week. I hated it and felt like I was being treated like an animal...whose brain could only respond to pain, not reason. They never proved anything to me, only that adults can be ugly people who choose to do the wrong things that unnecessarily hurt children, intentionally or otherwise.

If you teach your kids morals, then they do the right thing coz it's the right thing. If you hurt your kids coz they're doing wrong, the only thing holding them back from doing it again is the pain, and selfish reasons. I don't stand for that.

I ain't saying it's easy, it probably is harder than giving them 5 lashes on the *** and leaving it at that, but I believe in the end kids will be better off knowing right from wrong instead of just knowing the repercussions of doing wrong, then learning true morality later.

Answer 7

I agree with you. I was raised with spankings and got my mouth washed out with soap when I deserved it. I like you do not feel I was abused. Teach a child to know what no means and they will know what it means as an adult. I come from a family of 15 and not one has ever been in trouble or on welfare. I raised my son with the same methods and he also is a productive member of society and a veteran of the Gulf War.

Answer 8

I agree, spanking is now termed abuse. Instead they try to get the parents to use the United Nations approach like sanctions and all kinds of crap with blankets and candy. Kids today probably wouldn't be as messed up as they are if we could at least use the parenting tactics that worked years ago. I think society is gradually going down hill. Maybe that dumb a$$ "may I help you" could give us all insight to our lives since she seemingly knows everything being a CPA!

Answer 9

If an adult does something wrong do they get slapped? I am 16 and was never spanked nor did i have any trouble with the law. You can explain to the child what they did wrong but hitting them is teaching them that slapping is OK.

Answer 10

Sure it's abuse because the big government ho ho's and the Bible thumpers say it is.....then again our world is full of juvenile offenders, boys who wear their pants so low you know more about them than you really ever wanted to, little girls dressed like hookers or as I like to call them "prostitots", school shootings, drug dealers, and just general insolent rude little buggers who need a good slap - but we aren't supposed to do that we are supposed to make them sit down (time out) and think about their actions.
My mamma would have slapped me silly if I'd tried the stuff these kids pull.......back talk an adult...ANY adult and my mother would have given them a free swing.

Kids today lack respect - made someone needs to knock some into them.

Answer 11

I believe there are other methods of discipline a child. When I was younger I did get a slap here and there and I don't want my child to be raise that way. Each parent has their own way of disciplining but when a child bruises or bleeds then it becomes child abuse.