My brother is in the 7th grade. He comes to me with his promblems and since i am his older bro he excepts me to help him. well i am stumpt on this on. he comes home crying eveyday because people call him gay an dhe swears hes not. he hangs out ww/ alot a of girls ++ he talks likea girl w/ is high voice and he walks like a tomboy. sometimes i cant help to wonder. i have heard his friendsask him many times if he he was gay and such. somedays some of his friends dont talk to him and i fell very sorry for him. what can he do change his imagine. keep his friends and and get more guy friends????
2007-01-16 07:22:07 · 13 answers · asked by in my [mind] 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find the biggest bully in class and punch his lights out.
2007-01-16 07:26:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jack Tax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Na, you just tell him to stay close to the ladies! They are better friends anyway. The guys his age are too insecure to see what a good thing he has going! He'll outgrow the high voice and the walk but the guys can have a lasting negative impact. tell him he's doing fine, enjoy the ladies. Heck, he is where all the guy will wish they were in a couple of years.
If you force him toward the guys, they will make him gay. Some of them are likely already, they just aren't ready to come out so they make fun of others to hide themselves. They are always looking for an opportunity to get close to someone insecure that they can "make friends with".
I was the same way growing up, I was too tall, skinny and not as coordinated as many of the other guys and took a bunch of crap for it, but the relationships I had with the ladies! They are still some of my fondest memories. Just help him realize what a good situation he has. He'll be fine.
2007-01-16 15:38:12 · answer #2 · answered by MtnManInMT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your brother is gay. He is just maturing at a slower pace and is too much a softie that make him appear gay. Try and get him more involved with guy things. See if he is willing to take up a sport of some kind. You know, sports and stuff like that. Spend more time with him, be a strong male influence for him. I suspect your and his dad is not very much involved. Usually this is the case. Your brother is lucky to have such a nice brother as you are. Good luck to you both!
2007-01-16 15:29:47 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what if he doesnt want more guy friends? Perhaps he likes his "image" - its so sad the kids at school are treating him like this!
I have known wonderful men who *ya have to wonder about* who really are not gay... they are just sweet guys. Girls who like the bad boy image will only find themselves in trouble down the road.
I would encourage your brother to be himself, even if others dont like him. I'm not sure about your age difference - but hang out with him - take him cool places.
Make sure he knows school is supposed to be a place for learning and not just socialization. If he does what he needs to do in school, everything will turn out. Ensure him that these short years are just a drop in the bucket compaired to his adult life.
Tell him he rules - be himself and dont give a crud about what others say! If he does this, he will go futher in life than any of the losers that are being mean to him!
BTW, the guys are most likely just jealous cuz he's hangin' with the girls! ;) Make sure he knows this too!
2007-01-16 15:29:48 · answer #4 · answered by Patti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, i can really relate to you because i have a friend who is currently hanging out with other 7th grade girls, but can't seem to find some guys to hang out with because he says that guy friends don't help him solve out his problems and they don't take him seriously enough. My friend does whatever he wants, even though people do call him gay its not like he's actually gay. If your brother cry's everyday to you, tell him to be whatever he wants to be, and tell him to wear whatever he wants to wear. Don't change his image because its not right to change someones image when the like they way they are. If people tell him he's gay, since he's your brother stand up for him, don't feel sorry for him!
2007-01-16 15:29:10 · answer #5 · answered by ggirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your brother that he is still young and he is still developing. If he hangs out with girls, that's okay. Nobody but himself can decide if he is gay. Finally, what if he is gay? Everyone has to deal with teasing and we all have to accept that not everyone is going to like us. Be a good brother and let him know that you care about him no matter what.
2007-01-16 15:29:30 · answer #6 · answered by carmen v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't need to change his image he needs to be himself, Mike tyson has a really high voice and I would not call him gay (especially to his face). Personally I think the other guys are jealous because of all his face time with the honies.
2007-01-16 15:27:34 · answer #7 · answered by kyrie_eleison_gr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesn't sound like he has very good friends, does it? why doesn't he try to meet other people ( that won't label him) a friend is somebody who accepts you for who you are.
who a person is, is not defined by how you talk, walk, or your sexual preferences. who a person is, is how you respond to people, how you treat them, and in how you live your life.
7th grade is tough on guys and girls--talk to your brother and keep in mind what he's going through.--things will get better
2007-01-16 15:33:23 · answer #8 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he knows he's gay he shouldn't try to hide it. Maybe you are showing him that it's not an acceptable behavior so he doesn't want to admit he's gay.
2007-01-16 15:26:58 · answer #9 · answered by hurt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real friends except you as you are. He shouldn't have to change a thing. Whatever he is is what he is, like it or not.
2007-01-16 15:27:06 · answer #10 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋