get along very well and this is good for the kids. The problem is that she is always around. She works shift work so we care for the kids. I see her everyday and I really am tired of seeing her. Does this make me bad. I feel bad about it but I am sick of her face!!!
2007-01-16 07:20:42 · 5 answers · asked by just me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How long have they been divorced? If it hasn't been that long it may be that your boyfriend and the mom are just trying to soften the blow of their divorce for their children by doing more things together. But, having said that, maybe you should tell your boyfriend what you just told us and ask him to try and find some balance by asking his ex to give you two some space. I don't think you are bad for wanting that! They are divorced after all. That usually means that she has her own home to go to and should go there!
By 'always around' I assume you mean that she hangs out at your boyfriend's house when she's not at work. If you just mean that she comes by to pick up the kids each day and hangs out for a few minutes, then you will just have to put up with that, or ask your boyfriend to take the kids to her house some of the time, instead of her always picking them up. No one in a new relationship wants their mate's ex hanging around all the time. Those two should understand that. Make sure you don't bring this up in front of the kids!
2007-01-16 07:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Susan try explaining to your boyfriend that you do adore his mother but that you two need some time alone. If possible try getting away for a romantic weekend or if not then just going out for a coffee or whatever your financial circumstances will dictate. Sounds also like she is a good grandma to his children and she should be respected for this also, as soon enough they will grow and not want to be around you adults. If you feel comfortable enough to approach her directly and let her know your feelings in a non-hurtful way I'm certain she would understand how you feel. She may very well take your advice and respect you more for having the backbone to approach her with your feelings. Best of luck in solving this problem at hand.
2007-01-16 07:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very natural to feel that way. Just remember that the situation could be a whole lot worse if they didnt get along. Dealing with the drama and bull could weigh too much on the relationship you have with your boyfriend. Keep in mind that as long as you are with your man and there are children involved, that noone is going anywhere so you might as well make the most of it. You dont have to be her best friend, but at least be nice. Getting along with her will help him out.
2007-01-16 07:29:07 · answer #3 · answered by Renee G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that makes you bad. I do however think you have some decisions to make. The kids are a part of the deal with your boyfriend. UNFORTUNATELY, she is a part of the kids. are there any additional details to this that we may be missing? Like does she DO something annoying? Is she trying to get him back in any way? It seems that there is a lil more to you being tired of seeing her than you let on to. Just my opinion, I could be VERY wrong.
2007-01-16 07:26:35 · answer #4 · answered by GO NAVY! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well a good thing you notice she's a good mom and the importance of the two of them getting along. It doesn't make you bad but you shouldn't bring it up. That will cause a load of crap you really won't like. If you truly can't handle it. Then leave him or go to the store for milk or bread when she's due to come over..LOL
2007-01-16 07:27:53 · answer #5 · answered by MotherMayI? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋