I think part of it may be b/c we were arguing and having problems for a while, so the emotional problems made me not physically into him. A lot of things have gotten better now, although I do still have doubts about us, and I do still have slight annoyances with him once in a while. But the physical attraction has not returned at all. Of course he feels upset by it, and I'm wondering if something's wrong, and what? Any ideas? Has this happened to you before?
2007-01-16 07:15:23 · 18 answers · asked by cajun m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You say you've been arguing alot. Alot of things get said when arguements happen. Many hurtful things, and in the process can make the other look, well..less than attractive. Remember, someones attitude, how they act, what they do, and how they respond in the middle of a fight, can all make their looks disappate.
Suddenly, the one that, at one time you found so very attractive, suddenly isn't.
I can only talk from my own experiences, but I know when I fight with my Husband, that I don't at that time want him touching me, don't feel loving to him, don't anything. I'm mad angry and hurt, I just want to be left alone.
If I were you, I would sit down and go over some of the recent fights. Maybe, (and I know this will hurt a bit) think of one of the worst fights and try to figure out what it was that was said that hurt so much. If you can figure that out, then talk to him about it. Gently approach him on it. Say something like, " Remember when we had this arguement, and you said this, well it really hurt, and I'm having a difficult time dealing with it. Can we talk?". Doing that will open the lines of communication and give you both a starting point. Also let each other see just how willing the other is to go to make the relationship work.
I wish you the very best, and Good Luck!!
2007-01-16 07:26:56 · answer #1 · answered by Enigma 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am in the same boat right now! sometimes when you've gone through too many grueling arguments and problems with a person you realise somewhere deep down that that's not what you want for the rest of your life and you tend to retract your emotions from them which can have a huge effect on their desirability. it may just be that things are over for you and him and you both need to realise it and move on. the only other thing you could do if you really really still want this relationship is to try and work at it by taking small steps. sexual attraction has a lot to do with self confidence so start out doing small things with each other and gradually work up. maybe you'll be able to fix it!
2007-01-16 07:21:53 · answer #2 · answered by kestrelk8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Studies show that men are aroused visually and women are aroused mentally. The problems in your relationship may have done a number on your attraction to him. Of course he's okay, he separates sex from emotions most likely. For most women, one usually is connected with the other.
You could also be suffering from some form of hormonal imbalance. Decreased levels of estrogen and other hormones could result in sexual symptoms. You may also be depressed to some degree and that may interfere as well.
If it is that big of a problem and you are experiencing symptoms of depression, please see a doctor. If you're perfectly balanced emotionally, your body and mind might be trying to tell you something. Maybe your doubts about your relationship are strong and maybe some time apart or a break-up is necessary.
Everyone is going to get annoyed with their partner throughout any relationship sometimes. But you have to ask yourself...can you spend the rest of your life with a man who bothers you that much?
2007-01-16 07:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by Android 18 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's very natural for women over 60 years of age to lose their sex drives. And no, Mrs:CARJUN MARTARITA, I'm still in my primetime, none of these have ever happened to me at all.
I suggest you to tell him how you feel, what makes you upset about him& vice versa, & more importantly how do both of you plan to better your relationship meaning there is a check & balance theory here, giving & taking, forgiveness & reconciliation.
And for your sexual impotent problem, there is a cure of coldness, feeling unwanted. 1st you have to be at an emotional stable stage, meaning having happy relationships with your boyfriend, your children, and your grand children. This is an emotional curing part. Now to your physiological part of the problem, there is this sexual hormone therapy that can only be administered by licensed M.D; this hormone helps you to get your groove back, not only that, it also secretes a sexual pheronmone through your body hair follicles (YES, every single hair follicle on your body) that will attract the opposite sex. Trust me, your soul mate can't get his hands off you and you will make men turn their heads when you walk on the street.
I know the psychological facts that all women want to feel sexy, beautiful, attractive, and mostly sexually desirable to their men.
So workout the differences with your boyfriend & visit your family doctor now.
I wish you the best on your relationship with your boyfriend!!
2007-01-16 07:21:53 · answer #4 · answered by Infinite 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It could be that there are too many unresolved issues between you outside of the bedroom or it could be that neither of you spends time and energy renewing and nurturing your intimate life. You may benefit from couples counselling. If nothing works, then perhaps it is time to move on. Life is too short not to live it happily in every way you can.
2007-01-16 07:20:55 · answer #5 · answered by Jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this has happened to me. and once it was all over i then relized it was because i didnt love him anymore. at the time i thought that i did but now i know i was just stuck in the comfort of the relationship. my relationship now we cant waite to be together and are always trying to come up with new ways to please each other. So seeing both sides, now i know how it should be. i wasent board with the sex or anything else. i was not into it cause i didnt love the pearson i was with. It had nothing to do with kids or work, no excuses.
2007-01-16 07:27:53 · answer #6 · answered by mess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your not feeling sexually attracted anymore it may have faded you may have took all the pleasure and funn out of it. and if you have been having a tough time with him lately maybe being sexually active isnt your problem. Nothing is worng perhaps you are just relizing your tru inner feelings for him
2007-01-16 07:24:36 · answer #7 · answered by simply happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it crappy that men made viagra for themselves yet there is no magic pill for us ladies. Try to not put any pressure on either of you for sex for a little bit. Then start by pretending that you are just starting to date again. Get all dressed up and get that excited feeling that you used to have before a date.
2007-01-16 07:21:44 · answer #8 · answered by Baileysmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having doubts and arnt attracted to your boyfriend it sounds like you need to move on and be with someone who excites you and tickles your fancy. You dont want to waist your time on someone just because you make them happy. It has to go both ways. Trust me once you start having feelings like this towards someone they dont just go away. These feelings will only get worse and cause more problems. I think it's time to start thinking about yourself and stop worring about how he feels.
2007-01-16 07:21:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it has happened to me and you'll probably realize that you have lost your feelings for him. Maybe not entirely, but once the physical attraction has gone, the rest will follow. Maybe you just want to be friends.
2007-01-16 07:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋