me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship now for around 3 months? we have an active sex life with long bouts of foreplay!!!! the problem is that she doesnt orgasm every time leaving me feeling insecure as she like to remind me that it takes 2 minutes to do it herself!!! is she being unreasonable?
2007-01-16 07:14:48 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am a man asking via my girlfriends account........
2007-01-16 07:15:55 · update #1
Hey! Wise up, I am a man and I don't orgasm every time. We are all human not super porn stars and performers.
Different times different circumstances, we cannot always produce the goods. So What!!
Enjoy the foreplay enjoy each other and when it does happen enjoy the bonus.
2007-01-16 07:34:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no expert, but I think she's probably being extremely unreasonable. She may be having trouble having an orgasm because there is a lack of trust there. You should talk to her about that. If she doesn't fully trust you, it would be difficult for her to have an orgasm every time. Instead of getting offended, ask her about it. When you have a totally open and honest relationship and you trust each other completely, the sex will be much better.
2007-01-16 07:24:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is unreasonable to expect an orgasm every time however it is unreasonable for her to make you feel so bad about it when she does not orgasm. It is not just your responsibility when it comes to her orgasming, she should help too. She needs to be relaxed and in the right frame of mind. She needs to want sex. She should tell you how she likes and where she likes it! And she can use her own hands / vibrator while you do other stuff to her. It's not your fault, work at it together and have fun while you're doing it!!
2007-01-16 07:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by clairelou_lane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course it is! It's also pretty unhelpful for you to start feeling insecure. Try enjoying it rather than scoring the event on a chart! I've been married +20 years and we were together for 10 years before that! I'm not trying to be smug - it's not always a bed of roses - but lighten up, both of you. You can enjoy each others enjoyment and sex doesn't have to stop when a man's orgasmed.
2007-01-16 07:28:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women just don't orgasm that easy. Others will orgasm easily with anyone and some still will only orgasm very well with you only.
I recommend not giving up until you make her come then make a point of learning what make her tick.
If she can make herself come that quick - you should be able to too.
2007-01-16 07:36:30 · answer #5 · answered by charlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes she is being unreasonable! I would NEVER expect my boyfriend to make me orgasm every time especially since it is usually hard to make a girl orgasm. She's horrible to say that it takes 2 minutes to make herself ***, a woman knows her body better than anyone. Never feel insecure because she doesn't always get it. Stop having sex with her and talk to her if it bothers you too much, because shes not being fair.
2007-01-16 07:20:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes she is unreasonable. lots of things make us not respond to touch.Especially if we have been upset and cant seem to forget how horrible our day has been. If you are satisfying her most of the time, then she is being selfish and her hurtful remarks are bound to make you feel insecure.
2007-01-16 07:29:35 · answer #7 · answered by ambertottie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unreasonable to EXPECT it, you exopect to orgasm every time don't you? But is it unreasonable for her to expect that YOU have to give her one. I am married with kids and sometimes, I just have time to do it fast, and I can't always count on my husband to do it for me so I tell him to worry about his and I will worry about mine! Sometimes he likes to watch me give myself an orgasm, sometimes he will take the whole night and give me as many orgasms as I can stand..but its always different and its NOT always on his shoulders to make me come. And it shouldnt be. So tell her to get to rubbing herself or tell her you wanna watch her do it to herself then when she is wet and ready you can dive in and get round 2 going!
2007-01-16 07:26:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think its unreasonable i like to have at least 3 and she is right it does take about 2 mins doin it yourself. if you cant find the spot when you have sex finish her off with your fingers or tongue that will keep her happy she wouldn't be disappointed then
2007-01-16 07:22:37 · answer #9 · answered by Jo C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should never leave her unsatisfied. She makes you feel good you should do the same.
My wife is an extra 20 minutes of effort but its worth it for the look on her face alone.
2007-01-16 07:21:48 · answer #10 · answered by kyrie_eleison_gr 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋