my two best friends, ashley and pj, of seven years has decided that they no longer want my friendship due to my recent boyfriend, tom. They've told me that i've changed recently and become a different person. Thing is is that the guy im with used to be friends with both of them but due to a falling out between Tom and Ashley, shes decided to try to make me choose between tom or her and pj. Pj really doesnt have a voice in this matter due to the sponge-like way he takes on ashleys opinions. But i feel i should clear up the fact that when they are all together they seem to get along which is why it all has come as a shock to me that they hate each other so much. Am I being a bad friend to date a guy who clearly is enemies with my best friends? are they being immature? i need an outside opinion of the situation because i think i've stewed on it for too long and my emotions are involved when trying to think of a way to handle it. Thanks!!
2007-01-16 07:13:39 · 9 answers · asked by yourmygoodfeeling 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the argument was along the lines a couple of years ago ashley was dating toms best friend and she lied about something and tom called her crazy and that set ashley off.. well because she isnt the most mently stable person..which maybe the reason shes loosing one of the last friends that are true to her...
2007-01-16 07:26:01 · update #1
Seems a lame excuse to me saying either you break it off with Tom or your no longer our friend. Ashley seems a controlling person and wants everyone to do as she says or else. People like Ashley need a wake up call...this ole world doesn't revolve around them!!! There are plenty of people out there that you know and can become friends with. Since you and Tom are now an item, go make yourselves friends together. Show Ashely she's not the only one that has friends
2007-01-16 07:27:16 · answer #1 · answered by sassywv 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think of it this way, if they were your friends, they will stick by you no matter what. If a guy comes between you, then there must be something else going on. What was the cause of the argument between your B/F and your friend. If they can give you a ligitamate reason for you not to be with him, then think about it. But if they are saying that you changed, ask them how? Maybe they are just jelous that you have someone else to talk to and hang out with. Real friends will stick by you, no matter what!
2007-01-16 15:20:57 · answer #2 · answered by crodriguez1010 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think if this girl is really your friend, then you need to listen to her. She is trying to tell you that you are a different person around Tom and she notices it. She is also warning you of him not being a nice person to be with. If you value your friendship then you will listen and find a new man. Otherwise, kiss the friendship goodbye and move on with Tom. Thank you.
2007-01-16 15:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ashley is a two-faced jerk. You should dump her and find good people to be friends with.
PJ needs to dump Ashley while he still has enough of himself to dump the controlling she-dog. It will save him a nasty divorce in the future.
2007-01-16 15:23:46 · answer #4 · answered by John D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They don't sound like very good friends to me if they want to throw it all away because your going out with a guy they don't like. Iv'e had friends with bf/gf that I couldn't stand so I would just hang out with them when they were alone, problem solved. If your friends aren't willing to work with you on it then I think you deserve some new friends....
2007-01-16 15:21:46 · answer #5 · answered by vwmanxter 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, they always say that you can't help who you fall in love with. As for your so called friends, it is your life, so they have to live it. People who try to make decisions for you, shouldn't even merit your consideration!
2007-01-16 15:20:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ANYONE, who tries to make you choose between friends, boyfriends, etc, are not your friends. Life is about your choices, not the ones your friends give you.
2007-01-16 15:18:09 · answer #7 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your true friends will like you no matter who you date
2007-01-16 15:19:28 · answer #8 · answered by Waldo Y 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh the drama...dump them all.
2007-01-16 15:21:02 · answer #9 · answered by MotherMayI? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋