Spanking your children, right or wrong?

Question

Do you feel that's it's okay to spank your children as a form of capital punishment (keep in mind, I say spanking, not beating. Spanking as defined as a controlled swat to the buttocks region).

Answer 1

i believe it is ok but never out of anger. I have recently done a course called the tripple p parenting course and i can tell u that a lot of thier non smacking or non punisihin methods dont work. My 5 yr old has worked out that im trying new methods an pushes every1 to the limet. My parents(who loved him to pieces) cant stand him anymore n think he has turned into a selfish rude brat.
So i have thrown that book in the bin n while still keepin an ear out for new methods believe that asmack wont do him no harm if it brings out the best. I mean u r the parent who is responsible for the well being, manners, respect, n saftety of ur child n if ur not suceeding there u need to ask ur self WHY?
What are u DOING, or NOT DOING?

Answer 2

I do NOT consider *spanking* a form of capital punishment !!! spanking is what it is, plane ole punishment to teach right from wrong !!!!!!! I agree spanking is taken to far in a lot of cases... the spanking you speak of I have done and do, with my grandchildren, but ONLY when I feel nothing else works... I talk, do time outs, etc,... but when they do something that is life threatening, such as getting out in the street ?? a swat on the bottom PLUS an explanation as to why they should NOT do it and why they got the spanking is also given... this is a touchy issue, because we have become a society of abuse !!!! God bless

Answer 3

I do believe in spanking one swat on the butt. After I read the book 1, 2, 3, magic I learned a better way to handle things. Spanking as been a lot less often. I was raised with spanking and I feared my mom raising her hand to swat me, she keep me out of trouble...never drank before I was 21, no drugs, never skipped class...I don't think that I will have the same effect on my kids though...

Answer 4

Just to split hairs...capital punishment means execution, but I'm sure that's not what you meant...

I don't see anything wrong with a spank as you have defined it, to a certain age. I used it on my toddlers to get their attention because let's face it, sometimes everything else doesn't work. But once my son was around 5 and getting bigger, a "swat" just wasn't cutting it and I wasn't going to hit him any harder so at that point, I decided that other methods of discipline were best. Coincidentally, his maturity reached a level where other punishments worked as well (like taking away the video games!)

Answer 5

No kid is a perfect angel but behavior problems are out of control. I wouldn't have even THOUGHT about doing stuff (yelling, kicking, screaming, cussing etc) to my mom when I was younger or even now. I was never beaten as a child but I sure got a belt across my butt if I was acting up (and I only remember getting that twice) the rest of the time I got "the look" and that was enough to stop me from doing whatever it is I was doing wrong. I knew the difference between what was acceptable and what wasn't, but then again my mom is old-fashioned (raised in the 50's and graduated in 1969) and already had a 18 yr old daughter when I was born. I was with her shopping one day and saw a five yr old boy carrying on and screaming bloody murder in Wal-Mart and I asked her if I, or any of my cousins my age, ever acted like that, she just looked at me and said "NO way, you knew better."
What will probably happen to kids is they will grow up, having no real consquences for their actions and hurt someone and end up and jail and wonder why, why? because their momma and daddy never put a belt across their butt when they needed it. Some parents today grew up either having bad expriences with physical discipline or have grown up with people shouting "abuse" and have no idea how to discipline their children. Time-outs and grounding sometimes work, but sometimes they don't or only work for so long. Parents try to make their children happy all the time, if you discipline them they might be mad for a while, but the children will be much happier as adults if you show them both love and discipline. To the person that said "it only makes your kids mad at you" SO WHAT Parents these days try so hard to make their kids like them and be their friend, your their PARENT not their friend you can be their friend when they are older. My boyfriend grew up with both a mom and a dad, from the time he was 4 he threatened to call DHS (like CPS) if she spanked him. Later when his parents seperated (in his teens) his dad abused him and threw him up against the wall, he called DHS and they refused to do anything about it. So he was never really disciplined and it carried over into adulthood, he never broke the law or anything but agrees that children need a good butt whipping sometimes and that he should of had one when he was younger.

Answer 6

Personally, the only time I have ever had to spank my kids is when they have done something very dangerous or downright stupid. For instance, my 4 year old daughter once tore her hand from mine and ran out into a busy shopping mall parking lot. I grabbed her hand and popped her a quick one on the butt before she could get too far. It was a dangerous situation and I wanted to do something that would definitely get her attention. At that time, I felt that was warranted and much more beneficial than trying to rationalize and reason with her.

I also popped my son on the butt the one time he was picking on the dog and she started to grown at him.

I believe spanking is okay in situations such as these where the kids may be in harms way. It gets their attention much more than other means of discipline.

I, however, do not use spanking as discipline for "normal" bad behavior that my kids may experience. I prefer to use timeouts and removal of privileges for stuff like that.

Answer 7

Spanking is regarded down upon and unlawful if the newborn is somewhat damage. yet i might want to say that ninety% of oldsters nonetheless do it. i imagine that is a robust concern. childrens who were spanked in many cases finally end up being good, smart human beings. i became spanked as a newborn everytime I did something undesirable. I discovered from my mistake and by no ability did something undesirable back. If I wasn't spanked, i might want to likely be a spoiled brat who might want to be cursing and ingesting and doing drugs.

Answer 8

I think spanking is fine. My parents spanked me, and I spank my children. They will be mad at first, but it really helps. Usually 10 minutes after I spank them they will come to me say their sorry, and help me out a bit.

Answer 9

If I feel that MY child is in need of a wake-up spanking, then I will give him one. I think it is perfectly okay (when given within the defentition of a spanking)

Answer 10

Look at all these parents spanking shows them hitting his ok and don't do it. That is what is wrong with the world today. Don't beat but spank your children. It also depends on the child my son (7 years old) you can take things from him and it works. But my daughter she is hard headed (6 years old) she will sit in her room with nothing and not be phased but spank her and tears coming rolling and it matters. So if you are beating them then that is fine. They are your children. do what you feel is necessary