My girlfriend and I broke up the other day after close to 4 years together. I have this gut feeling that I am never going to love or feel the way I do about her with someone else... (I hope that makes sense), part of me knows that we do not belong together but part of me misses her so much. We both have one kid each from a prior relationship, and that made the breakup even harder... The other twist is... during our relationship I felt like she was too good looking for me, she is very good looking and I am a little above average looking... will I ever find another beautiful lady??? Also, I am 30 years old, am I too old to be single???
2007-01-16 07:10:03 · 14 answers · asked by Ray 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why dont you try to get back with her and make it work****
2007-01-16 07:14:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are going through is part of healing. If you been with her almost 4 years why didn't you married her? Instead you where playing house, with her kid and yours. You think that your the only one being hurt by this? NO what about the kids that got attach to the both of you, don't there feeling matter too. Maybe she didn't what to invest anymore time on someone that she sees no future in. For a woman time is ticking so she probably needed to move on. Think about what cause the relationship to fall apart the sign are there this was something that didn't happen over night. You can't change her, but you can change yourself.
2007-01-16 07:24:47 · answer #2 · answered by honeybunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not too old to be single by a long-shot. This pain that you feel is temporary. Your self-worth was not in having a hot girlfriend, it is how you feel about yourself. My advice is to get back out there and meet some people soon. Maybe not relationship-wise, but just be around people. Don't become a recluse for any long period of time. Get active. Focus on the things you wanted to do when you were with her but couldn't. Enjoy the freedom. It is a new start. Good Luck!
2007-01-16 07:15:32 · answer #3 · answered by Here2Help 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you two broke up, but 30 is not too old to be single. I know because I didn't get married until I was 34.
It is a shame that your children are having to suffer for your dysfunctionality. Not to insult you, but if you are wanting to get back into another relationship, it seems your track record is not that good. I'm sure you don't want this to happen again.
My general rule of thumb is that I would never date any girls that came from a divorced home life. Its a psychological heritage that most children pass on and fulfill in their own lives.
If you came from a broken home, I would reccomend getting counseling, so you can identify how your current relationship skills are not serving you, and how you can change so that you won't continue this pattern.
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Good Luck, and don't give up !
2007-01-16 07:13:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for what you're going through but give yourself credit. She wasn't too good looking for you! You were together four years, that's a lot of time and she obviously saw good qualities in you that she found attractive. Qualities that others will see in you if you give yourself a chance.
30 is not too old to be single but you shouldn't dwell on that right now. Take time to recuperate from the break-up and spend time with yourself and your kid. Don't blame yourself and yes, you can find love again.
Best wishes.
2007-01-16 07:15:02 · answer #5 · answered by §Sally§ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When ever someone gets their heart broken it always feels you will never fall inlove in the same way again. And you will. You sound a little childish at 30 to be overly concerned about a girl's beauty. It is nice to look at a beautiful face, but you might be also looking for other qualities also, like trustworthy, honesty, committed. Good luck to you! Do hope you feel better soon, and you will, you will see.
2007-01-16 07:15:23 · answer #6 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop having doubts about urself..and don't settle for someone just because u think u can't find someone else "the same, or better" than that person!!!
first of all, u gotta work on ur self esteem. u gotta know that u are an Awesome, wonderful Man. if u are not yet, then work on it!! be a Smart, Confident, Good, Positive Man who knows how to take care of himself, his kids, and his family. be confident in ur abilities to be successful in ur career as well as ur ability as a parent and eventual partner. next, go out and meet people, and find a woman who is a Good Woman, a Good Match for you. don't dwell on someone who u KNOW in the back of ur mind u do not belong with!!! that is a waste. just think of it as u had a good relationship w/ a good person, but it wasn't the RIGHT person.
love and attraction and looks and age are part of it, but not all. u gotta have more DEPTH to a relationship. u have to be able to use that love to Fuel ur relationship, to Grow together, and make two separate people into ONE POSITIVE, healthy unit!!!! if that doesnt' happen, then u gotta keep looking. and don't feel badly about urself.... just keep trying to be a better man, a good person, and u will be worthy of a better woman. :)
good luck.. it all starts with urself. u have to be worth it and know it, before u can find someone who is worthy of u.
2007-01-16 07:17:10 · answer #7 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not too old to be single. It just takes time and is rare to find that special someone. There aren't enough good people in world.
Don't spend too much time moping over your (sorry, HER) loss. Do something fun, take up a hobby!
And also, look for someone who has a great personality and shares interests with you, not only someone who is beautiful.
2007-01-16 07:15:13 · answer #8 · answered by wildgrace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are as happy as you want to be. Life is what you make it. Focus on yourself and the baby. 30 is definately not too old to be single. Take time for you, think about your life, your goals, and accomplish what you want to out of life. You have to put your child first, then yourself, then someone else. There are millions of beautiful people in the world.
2007-01-16 07:15:19 · answer #9 · answered by precious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think your too old to be single. i feel that you will find someone else. i was in a 2 year relations hip and i loved him so much. things just didnt work out. we wanted different things in life. now im with a different guy that i love and i know that he is for sure the one for me. you'll find that beautiful lady to fall in love wiht again.
2007-01-16 07:14:11 · answer #10 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its really hard to get over someone...even though you know its for the best. but you will.
and no 30 is not too old to be single. 30 is the new 20. and who wants to be married at 20?!
cheer up!
2007-01-16 07:15:49 · answer #11 · answered by <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋