we nearly ghave several times but interventions have always stopped us, she is the same age as me... we are in england. do u think this is taking it too far or something despite the fact its legal???
2007-01-16 06:52:50 · 43 answers · asked by podgeman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't do it your not ready wait until your married
2007-01-16 06:56:09 · answer #1 · answered by Fruitful1 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you feel ready, then you could do it. First, make sure that she's ready as well. Many times, the girl isn't as ready as the boy is.
Also, questioning whether you should make love for the first time is a normal thing. Just because you're asking doesn't mean you're not ready. It just means that you're human! Every person is uncertain of such big decisions so early in their lives, and you have every right to question this and think it over.
And before you've decided, think of it this way. What will this do for your relationship? If you're in a good and happy spot in your relationship with her, then it could be a good thing. Think of how it'll change your relationship to see each other completely nude. Will it be a drastic change from your current intimacy or will it be a beautiful continuation of the love you have for each other? By the way, unless you love each other and you have told each other this, it is not a good idea to have sex. But I'm sure you knew that before...
If you're content with the place you two are intimately at the moment then it might not be right to go all the way just yet. Unless you're sure that it's a good thing for your relationship and it won't cause you to grow apart, then it doesn't hurt (too much ;) ) too wait. Maybe waiting will make it more special later, when it feels perfect between you two.
I know from personal experience that sex isn't always something that you should do just because you've been together for a long time and you're in love. For me and my boyfriend, it feels right to wait for now because we enjoy our current level of intimacy. Although we COULD go further, it feels so special to wait! And although it won't ruin anything between us, it's always nice to wonder about how it'll be once we're ready. Also, our morals play a big role in this decision. I always thought I'd be at least 18 when I lose my virginity (I'm 16 now), and I know it'll make me happy to wait until the age I expected to take that step.
It all depends on what feels right and what's best in the long run. As long as it feels like the right way to go for your relationship as a whole (not for you individually), then go ahead!
2007-01-16 07:08:59 · answer #2 · answered by julka323 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 21 and engaged to be married. I am a virgin, but my fiance has had several partners. I made a decision at a young age to wait until I was married, not because of the consequences, but because I knew I would love my husband more than anything. It hurts me that he didn't feel the same way and wait for me. It hurts him now, too. He knows that on our wedding night I will give him the most precious gift ever, and he won't be able to give me the same. Think about that. If you plan on getting married, the best gift you could give your future wife is your virginity, whether she's a virgin or not. If you don't care and you want instant gratification, then you're going to do what you're going to do. But I will tell you that delayed gratification is the best.
Also, think about her. Someday she will be someones wife... probably not yours. Would you want anyone having sex w/ your future wife? There are a lot of mental and physical struggles girls go through after having premerital sex. If you love her, then wait. That's the best gift... it means you really care for her above yourself and your own desires.
2007-01-16 07:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you guys really in love, or do you feel pressured just to get it over with for the first time?
You should look into your intentions, and the possible consequences too. (I know you've probably heard of this a million times about not having unprotected sex).
If you both think that your relationship is ready for it (warning: your girlfriend will get really clingy after you do it). Make sure that you have both talked it over and you aren't pressuring her into doing something she doesn't want to do. Use condoms, and she should take birth control pills.
Take into consideration that condoms don't protect against pregnancy 100% and there is always a slight chance that she will get pregnant.
2007-01-16 06:57:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your right you are dumb. Look at the reasons you want too. Is it because boys haven't paid much attention to you. If so, why not. Take a good look. Trust me, I have seen the ugliest women and uigliest men married with children. Not repectively of course. There are instances when I have thought, how did he end up with her or visa versa. Leave God choose who you make love to, not any emotions you pick up from people supposing to be intelligent. God will never pic two women to make love to each other. He will pick the husband though if you give him the chance. Remember, sex is for reproduction, not just your enjoyment. Enjoyment makes us want to reproduce.Remember, bad decisions will come back to haunt you again and again. Use your head
2007-01-16 07:18:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and her should decide on what you two want from each other. I think that when you talk about it to each other that you will find and she will find the answer you are both looking for from each other. Just talk to her about, and if interventions are stopping you and her, then i think that means that you and her are not ready yet, meaning God doesnt want you and her to do anything yet. If you wait long enough, it will be better in the end.
2007-01-16 06:58:32 · answer #6 · answered by fryeindustries2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, 16 is plenty old enough and as long as you're both agreeable and want to begin enjoying each other like that, you should make it happen. Have to plan to get away from those interruptions! Just remember it is NORMAL and OK for the first time to be nervous and unsure, and maybe a little awkward. You'll be fine and so glad you started!
2007-01-16 06:58:29 · answer #7 · answered by barefoot_always 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not right but we are not perfect. Trust me on this. If you are both consenting to do this just be responsible in your actions. Translation: USE PROTECTION!!! You want to avoid an unplanned pregnancy amongst other things. Also remember, everything happens for a reason. Those interventions were not accidents.
2007-01-16 07:02:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to have doubts about this - it's a big step to make in life. Just make sure that you two talk it over to really make sure that you are both ready for what's to come. DON'T DO IT if you don't feel that you're ready; it will just turn out badly in the end.
2007-01-16 06:58:27 · answer #9 · answered by Delvala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to ask if it's taking it to far than it probably is. If your ready than you wouldn't have to ask the question. don't be ashamed to wait. I waited till i was 18.
When the time is right you will know. as far as it being legal the law doesn't matter when it comes to how you feel if your not ready than your not ready who cares you have your whole life ahead of you just wait
2007-01-16 06:58:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the both of you are ready than by all means go for it but you gotta be responsible wear protection you dont want no accidents happening youll regret later this is a big step be careful and make sure you indeed are ready and its not just the hormones talking.
2007-01-16 06:57:18 · answer #11 · answered by amethyst m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋