Hey ladies, i need your opinions, do you agree that all females talk to their moms about bf's? If so then please let me know why my bf broke it off with me. I told my mom a few things about our relationship (when we had one) and so b/c of that he broke up with me. But then he told me that he has a daughter he needs to take care of, try to find a job, and then a gf he can worry about. But yet he still asks where i am where im going, what time, asks me for money for little things. & then before we broke up, i would do alot for him, like a wife like way. & i still love him and he still loves me, so what is the deal? i dont understand, and he just told me today that the real reason why he broke up with me is b/c i told my mom everything about the relationship. & i didnt tell her everything. Just bits and peices, and yet it feels like he never really gave me a chance. Please help me on what to say to him or if it was my fault or his. Or both. Thanks ladies. Male opinions welcome.
2007-01-16 06:43:00 · 7 answers · asked by fryeindustries2002 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When a guy is wrong and isn't giving 100% to the relationship it hurts our ego and pride to know that other people know about it. We all want to be the provider in the relationship and we feel inadequate when we lack in some aspect of a relationship. Maybe he feels like your mother is going to look down on him for what he isn't doing in the relationship instead of seeing the potential that he might have. He broke up with you because it was the easiest thing to do, instead of doing the right thing, which is Manning the hell up and make the changes needed to make the relationship work he ran.....P*ssy. If you truly love him then continue to pursue a relationship with him, let him know that you don't expect him to make all the right choices in life and that you are willing to walk down the path of uncertainty with him.
2007-01-16 06:52:43 · answer #1 · answered by voodoo_lover_23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You broke a cardinal rule to keep things private. That doesn't mean that you are suppose to put distance between you and your mother, but it does mean that your relationship with your boyfriend should remain private. It's too easy for family members and friends to encroach on that 'private world' that only you and your boyfriend are suppose to occupy. It's important that both of you have the assurance of knowing that whatever issues come up in the relationship are kept within the confines of the relationship. It's a matter of loyalty, freedom to be yourself, and privacy.
2007-01-16 06:54:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
first I think he is an immature, besides he is using for wherever he needs.
I think that he was using your mother issue as an excuse for breaking up, or just trying to scare you over the possibility of you trusting somebody else.
Don't forget that you can have many others b/f better than him, but the confidence that you have in your mother that can not be exchange for anything.
He is not showing that he loves you as the way that he says, he just wants to still manipulate you.
Don't forget you are the most important person in your live.
Good luck and take care
2007-01-16 06:55:47 · answer #3 · answered by sxm me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hunn' boyz don't want their g/f to talk about their realationships with their momm or elseone..but this doesn't seem to be the reason why he broke up with you..I think you should go for it and ask him about the real reason until he tells you. or try to think maybe you did/say something you better shouldn't do..
i understand that you love him but also you should not let him breake up with you for that reason (for no reason), u should ask HIM where the problem is at,cuz he knows best , tell him that he should have talked with you about that (about talkin' with someone else about your realetionship) and tell him that you will not do that again if he doesn't want that!!
hugz
good luck ..
2007-01-16 06:59:34 · answer #4 · answered by samsamilya 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should let him go. There is no reason that you should not tell your mom what you want to. and it sounds like he was using you if you had to give him money and stuff like that. what kind of guy has to ask his girl for money. You are better off now. I mean he hadnt even told you that he had a child.
2007-01-16 06:54:27 · answer #5 · answered by Mac H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think it was stupid of him to "break up" with you just because you told your mother things about your relationship. Especially since he acts like he still loves you and asks you of things. ALL girls tell their moms about their boyfriends!
It's his fault.
If he still loves you, there is no logical reason for him to break up with you. I have dated guys and told my mother about them (they knew), but none of them broke up with me because of it!
Personally, if this happened to me, I would move on. If the guy broke up with me for this stupid reason, I would just move on and and find a better man. Someone who will be more mature enough to handle a relationship -which this guy was obviously not.
2007-01-16 06:59:08 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Id have to say in my experiences would be is to tell him the truth share to him of what all you shared to you mother and take it from there. So good luck to you.
2007-01-16 06:52:53 · answer #7 · answered by Tator Salad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋