i told him that he had to choose me or drugs he couldnt have both. he said well how about you choose me or someone else so i broke up with him. did i do the right thing? also he called me and said he would stop doing drugs and partying. but he also said that was his only sorce of fun that i was boring unless we were having sex. i feel like he only wants me to get sex. i love him but i feel like im being used. what do you think about this? thanks!
2007-01-16 06:31:29 · 19 answers · asked by darkness_over_light 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need to forget about him and move on he was using you and is worthless
2007-01-16 06:38:35 · answer #1 · answered by Mac H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is an insensitive moron, for doing drugs, but also for saying something like that to you. If he thinks your boring unless you are having sex with him, then YES he is using you just for sex. You absolutely did the right thing by breaking up with him. Run as fast as you can in the other direction...someone better will probably be waiting at the other end to catch you in his arms! You are a prize catch for not doing drugs and for seeing the moron for what he really is girl! Take care of yourself...no one else is going to do it for you.
2007-01-16 06:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep - standing by him rarely helps and just causes you more grief and pain - if he is really doing drugs - and they have such a hold on him that anything else is "boring"..then he isn't right of mind to make a choice anyway. If he thinks you are boring unless you are having sex..this is a creepazoid of a male - drugs or not. Good riddance to bad rubbish..he's not worth a thought. You did the right thing.
2007-01-16 06:37:53 · answer #3 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on now. stop it. do you really need us to answer that? do you like being treated as an sex object? And lets not even talk about the issues YOU have to face with him being on drugs. So when he spends all YOUR money on drugs and gives you HIV, beats you when he is high etc... then ask your self what you should do. People use a bit of common sense. ohh and no he is not going to stop for you no matter how much you love him. He has an ADDICTION that your love won't cure
2007-01-16 06:45:00 · answer #4 · answered by tall_slimm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, obviously you deserve something a lot better. He has an addictive personality. He is addicted to drugs, drinking, and sex. People like that will only just hide it from you when you say choose me or the other stuff. He will just try to drag you down with him. So I say, push him aside and move on. There are BILLIONS of men out there waiting for a girl who has morals like yours. Good Luck!
2007-01-16 06:38:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all he would've stopped doing drugs when you asked him 2 stop and when u guys were going out...and trust me he won't stop he's just trying to get back with you and about sex don't give him any because then he'll like it and just use you just to have sex....DON'T FEEL SORRY 4 HiM...he would've stopped doing drugs for you if he really loved you
2007-01-16 06:38:40 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ i L0VE U S0 MUCH ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him. Once a drug addict, he will most likely remain one. The only person who can make him quit is himself and it doesn't sound like he wants to right now. Go out and find someone you have more in common with, and I'm sure he won't find you boring.
2007-01-16 06:37:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. Think about it, he basically said he can't be with you unless he can do drugs and party....does it sound like he loves you to you?
2007-01-16 06:36:11 · answer #8 · answered by Cyber Stalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After he answered you like that he does only want u for sex. You need to move on to someone who cares about you.
You made the right decision giving him an ultimatum but he should never take you for granted and insult you in that manner.
You need to dump him for good, get over it and move on.
2007-01-16 06:38:40 · answer #9 · answered by Tick E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. If he thinks your so boring and you are only good for sex, he 'was' using you. You can find someone who cares for you just for who you are.
2007-01-16 07:01:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most people that are using drugs,can't stop until they hit bottom.and your ex-boyfriend is going to tell you what you want to hear.but I can tell you from personal experience that ,if you do go back to him,all he is going to do is sneak around behind your back to get his drugs and keep you around.I went threw that with my ex-husband,he told me what I wanted to here and continued to do what he wanted.and we ended up splitting up about 4 years later after he went to jail and I found out that he had been lying to me the whole time we were together,and not just about the drugs either,I also found out that he had been cheating on me as well.
2007-01-16 07:02:19 · answer #11 · answered by LaRie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋